Let me tell you, I know how it feels to be insulted-

I am a SAHM. My sister works full time, and makes boo-koo bucks. She works a lot of hours, has a gorgeous home, etc. EVERYTHING has to be PERFECT. (How we came from the same mother is beyond me.....LOL)

I offered to make a card for her so she didn't have to go to the Hallmark store. (she just had a baby.) She told me "No, that's okay. Dad likes REAL CARDS!" :evil:

If I could have smacked her I would have. I asked her what that crack was supposed to mean, and she replied (again, put her foot in her mouth) "Well, Dad just likes cards from the store-they mean more to him."

Needless to say, this escalated into a HUGE fight, and I was devastated. This is what I do! Cards are my "Biz!" She should have just kicked me in the head after making that comment. It hurt me so much I bawled all day.

She is jealous of my time at home. She pays me to do scrapbook pages! LOL I know it is mostly jealousy because I don't have to work, but it still hurt.

I too hear from other's that "You have too much time on your hands." I take it as a compliment actually. Because it TAKES TIME to make something so beautiful, and I "took that time" to make something special for them.

You know, girls, we stamp and scrapbook for enjoyment. Not because we "can't afford to buy a card!" LOL ( I wouldn't be caught in a Hallmark store-it would "blow my image!" :D )

Anyways, dear friend, continue to make those lovely cards. It fills your spirit I am sure, as it does mine.

Blessings,
Julie

People are always usually very impressed with what I do as far as my cards/scrapbooking/creativeness. However, I have been met MANY times with the "You have WAY TOO MUCH time on your hands. Wait until you have kids, you won't have time for any of this!" I think people are just jealous of our talents and wish they could be as talented as us. Plus, I don't believe them for a minute. There are THOUSANDS of mom's on SCS that have time for it! You MAKE time to do something you love!!! If they don't want to appreciate your beautiful homemade cards and the effort you put into them, I saw screw them. Give them a cheap card from the dollar store. People like that don't know what class and style is.

Please don't let it bother you. Long ago, I realized that giving was the important thing. If I get a thank you or wow for any type of gift or card I send, great. If not, I really don't let it bother me. There are any host of reasons why someone would make comments. My kids and I love our creations and I even think my husband likes them. We sent his parents gift cards for Christmas and he actually picked out a different card than the blah one I was going to send. The first year I stamped, I send out only a handful of homemade cards. My MIL asked me if my DD had made the card (she was 5 at the time). That didn't hurt my feelings one bit. You know, if someone intimated that they preferred store-bought cards, I think I'd probably start sending even more homemade ones for every possible holiday. (I'm wearing a rather evil grin as I type this.)

You know its true I do have alot of time on my hands. I no longer sit for hours and mindlessly watch t.v. I have had that comment said to me and I just laugh and say that in the same 30 minute time that I used to take to watch a sitcom or hour to watch a show that I would forget about in the next day i now create memories and cards. I like to think that the people who i randomly send them to just to brighten their day dont consider my efforts a waist of time but a gift from my heart. this usually shuts them up pretty quick.

Please don't let it bother you. Long ago, I realized that giving was the important thing. If I get a thank you or wow for any type of gift or card I send, great. If not, I really don't let it bother me. There are any host of reasons why someone would make comments. My kids and I love our creations and I even think my husband likes them. We sent his parents gift cards for Christmas and he actually picked out a different card than the blah one I was going to send. The first year I stamped, I send out only a handful of homemade cards. My MIL asked me if my DD had made the card (she was 5 at the time). That didn't hurt my feelings one bit. You know, if someone intimated that they preferred store-bought cards, I think I'd probably start sending even more homemade ones for every possible holiday. (I'm wearing a rather evil grin as I type this.)

Okay, I must say, I love the responses here! You guys are great and have made me feel so much better about hearing those kinds of crude remarks or often nothing at all. :D

I have to say though, I'm the type that if my MIL preferred store-bought cards and told me so, I would probably bombard her with hand-crafted cards just to make my point that hand-crafted is better! :wink:

Now, I'm one of those who saves everything (inherited from my mother except she's neater and more organized about it) and I have come to terms with the fact that not everyone is like that. As long as they don't throw the card or gift away right after I give it to them or in my presence, I can deal with it. However, I must admit that I don't work quite as hard on cards and gifts for those who I know aren't savers, as I do for those who I know who do save my "artwork." Is that so wrong? :roll:

On a happy note, my mom has a keepsake box for all the cards I give her and my grandparents display their cards in rooms all over their house, long after they have received them. Isn't that sweet? They'll always get the good stuff! :wink:

This is so true. It is difficult to receive insensitive comments, or no comments at all, regarding our very well-intended creations. Many times, our stamped creations are a gift in themselves, apart from any other items they might accompany.

Please be assured that those responses are but a few. Many others will be touched by your creative gifts, and appreciate the fact that they were selected to receive such a unique work of heart!

Keep Stampin' & sharing!

~Beverly

You poor thing!
 

Hi, I'm a newbie here, but I am so sorry those things were said to you. Maybe they were incredibly jealous, or just plain ignorant. Probably a little of both. I hope that you continue to shower them with love, and help make their days brighter, as this is what SU has done for me! :D Here's also to hoping they learn what a generous person you are to spend the MOST precious commodity in all the world on them~YOUR TIME. FOR NONE OF US GETS ANY OF THAT BACK EVER.

Chantell

You poor thing!
 

Hi, I'm a newbie here, but I am so sorry those things were said to you. Maybe they were incredibly jealous, or just plain ignorant. Probably a little of both. I hope that you continue to shower them with love, and help make their days brighter, as this is what SU has done for me! :D Here's also to hoping they learn what a generous person you are to spend the MOST precious commodity in all the world on them~YOUR TIME. FOR NONE OF US GETS ANY OF THAT BACK EVER.

Chantell

[quote="stamper-c"]why you would spend your time and money doing something creative...it is not productive in their eyes...
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Would someone please tell me what WOULD be productive? I knit, cross-stitch, garden, can, bake breads, raise bees - all this in between my FT+ job (+ 2 hour commute). I know people who sit on the sofa and watch TV, play cards, go to bars, shoot pool, bowl, etc. I, personally don't think this is productive. I understand the social part, but I was raised to DO somthing while watching TV, or talking to people. I totally agree that I only give to those who would have a clue though - My mother hates to get a "real" card now - how impersonal, but others throw them, as well as those months long knit projects from very expensive yarn.

Bottom line, do what makes you happy. Don't stoop to the level of those who make you feel inferior because only YOU can MAKE you inferior. What you do is great. Keep doing it. I'm blessed with a MIL who loves my cards so much she buys 20 of them a month from me AND tells her friends to call me when they need some. I can't say as much for my own family though. Believe me, I've heard the "too much time on your hands" comment 100s of times. I let it go right over because I know what's underneath that is "man, I wish I knew how to make the time to do that" or "I wish I COULD do that". I suggest you do what makes you feel fulfilled. I wouldn't do any homemade gifts for anyone who has lousy comments, but the cards just can't stop. For me, and maybe for you, that's therapy. And eventually, they may come to appreciate your work. Just make theirs with a little less effort. You know, only one layer and no embellishments. :D Besides, they may put it up on the mantle and someone will come along and say "WOW! Where did you get that BEAUTIFUL card!?" That might make them think twice.

Let's introdue your MIL to mine! I think they would get along fine! Don't let her get to you. Your heart is in the right place!!!

One day before Halloween last fall we were down there and I gave her a tile magnet with a witch on it. I had made a bunch of them. The kids gave them out while they tricker or treated at the neighbors. She thought it was fine and assumed I had gotten it at the $$ store my DH and I had been to early that week. When she heard I made it her nose turned right up! UGH! Drives me nuts, my DD just reminds me who cares!

I have offered to make cards, with my supplies, for her when she needs them. They don't have a lot of money, and she would rather drive the eight miles to town and by a $4-5 card she can't afford. Whatever. I quit volunteering my services!

I used to worry about it when I did not get the feedback that I thought was appropriate for the work I had done. I had to remember that this was my therapy and creative outlet and if people are rude, I don't have to include them in when I was doing something I enjoy.

Many people just don't get it. I love the comment that someone else made about her cards being down to $42 each. I have spent so much on supplies that store bought cards are cheaper. They also take less thought, less creativity, less ambition...

Maybe for your MIL, your kids can make the cards for her from now on. MIL's sometimes feel threatened by their sons wives and to make themselves feel better they throw little jabs in. but when it comes to the grandkids, everything they do is fanstastic. So when she gushes over the kids cards, you can say, at least to yourself, "I showed them how to do this" and in a round about way she will actually be approving of you and the work you do.

Keep your chin up.

Don't let them get you down! Like everything some people will like it, some people won't. Some people will save every card they receive, others will toss all of them. I have a small pile of Hallmark type cards from my grandparents/parents that I have saved since High School up until now. Everything else usually gets tossed and that includes homemade cards....I do put all of my cards out on a shelf when they first come in but after a couple of weeks in the recycle bin they go.

So don't take it personally :) Homemade just isn't some peoples style :(

I am so glad you posted this. The comment about you having too much time on your hands reminded me fondly of my college roommates. When anyone ever said rude things to us our standard response, said in unison, was always "YOU'RE JUST JEALOUS!!!". ha! I think that would be fitting in this situation (under your breath, of course).

As for the MIL, I know what she'd be getting from me in the future... and it wouldn't be hand made cards! I only wish my dear MIL was still around to see the cards I've started making. I think she would have loved them!

The first year I sent out hand made Christmas cards, my MIL asked where her card from my DH was. I asked if she receieved the card I had made and she commented that she had received it , but thought maybe it was a mistake or something was wrong. I asked what she meant and she said she is accustomed to getting a pretty hallmark card from her son each year at Christmas like she sent to us. I apologized to her for her feelings being hurt and then passed the phone off to DH. Later that night I told him that her Christmas, birthday, mother's day etc cards and gifts where his problem and not mine anymore. :evil: I was sooo hurt.

Funny, DH got the opportunity a year ago, to give her a plug for my handmade cards! I made all the invites for his retirement ceremony (from the US Navy). I had sent her one as a courtesy, knowing she would be unable to attend. Not realizing I had made them, she went on and on to DH about the lovely "engraved" invitations we had sent out and how ever could we have afforded to have such lovely custom work done? :twisted: That's when DH piped up that I had made them and that I ENJOY making cards and gifts and that her comments to me 2 years earlier were very hurtful.

In the end: MIL now appreciates my efforts and looks forward to cards I send her. HOWEVER, my DH still has to get his rear-end over to Hallmark and get his OWN MOTHER a "pretty" card and send it to her for Bithday and Christmas (this is MY decision since it is HIS mother) 8) I think in the end, I won.

I'm sorry your MIL was so insensitive. Some relatives can be that way and I have learned not to put my heart and soul into a gift for them. I have to laugh, though because my MIL likes the cards I make so much she gives them back to me after the holidays because she can't bear to throw them out and tells me to change the insides and reuse them!! :D :D :D

I'm sorry this happened to you. I hate that this happens to some of us stampers and crafters.

When I first started stamping, I was (and still am) soo in love with the hobby and sent cards to family and friends. My MIL would look at the cards I've made and say "they're nice but why don't you try some different hobbies like cross stitching, flower arrangements, painting?" That really stung. I told her "but the point is I really enjoy stamping!" She just nodded and said " I know I know ". I don't think I sent her many more handmade cards after that. I also only send stamped cards to people that I know will appreciate them. Just my two cents.

Get this. A teacher's aide at my sons school said I had too much time on my hands after my son and I made snacks and treats that corresponded to the letter of the week. When I told my husband what she said HE AGREED WITH HER! I asked him what I should be doing with my time instead of working with my son and he said," I don't know, clean the house?"

Needless to say, I hired a cleaning lady the next day!

Spending time making things special for other people is the real gift of a gift.

I know how you feel! This past Christmas for 3 different teachers I made 10 different cards with coordinating envelopes. I tied them together with a nice ribbon, wrapped them in tissue paper and put them inside a decorative box. To go with the theme of "everything you need to send a card" I put in a packet of 10 stamps and an ink pen as well. Lastly I tucked a short but nice note into the box thanking them for their hard work. I was shocked when I only received a thank you note from one of the teachers! And a couple of the cards I made for them were thank you cards!! I didn't even get a verbal thank you! I know not all people like homemade stuff or that they may not have the same style taste as I do but I think Miss Manners would agree that a simple thank you, be it in writing or verbal, was in order.

BINGO!!!! You hit the nail on the head ~ my thoughts exactly!!

Please don't let it bother you. Long ago, I realized that giving was the important thing. If I get a thank you or wow for any type of gift or card I send, great. If not, I really don't let it bother me. There are any host of reasons why someone would make comments. My kids and I love our creations and I even think my husband likes them so that's good enough for me. (We sent his parents gift cards for Christmas and he actually picked out a different card than the blah one I was going to send.) I'll share with you that the first year I stamped, I sent out only a handful of homemade cards after I ran out of the store-bough ones. My MIL asked me if my DD had made the card (she was 5 at the time). That didn't hurt my feelings one bit. You know, if someone in my family intimates that they prefer store-bought cards, maybe I'll start sending even more homemade ones for every possible holiday. (I was wearing a rather evil grin as I typed that last line.)

I would vote for no more gifts for hubby's "gals at work" and let hubby produce all future cards for MIL.
Anything I make is a gift of myself to someone. If I need to produce a card for someone that has been unappreciative, I have a basket of "not my best work" cards to choose from.
Before handmade cards, my Christmas Card list was 25 names. More and more people are sending me cards now so I'll send them one of my handmade cards (they have told me this). Some of my cards have been framed to be put on their walls every Christmas season....what better compliment is there?
Put your heart into what you love and don't let the rude or envious ones get the better of you.

If anyone ever tells you that you have too much time on your hands, if you thought it appropriate to reply, you could say " I have the same 24 hours a day as everyone else, I just took some of that time to make something especially for you. I had so hoped you will like it. In future, I will do something else." (Keeping in mind *nothing* else is an option.)

Some people don't appreciate flowers, music, art, dance, fashion, perfume, or hand-made cards. Just be glad you are you, and take joy in making something for others.

You could also look at is as she did you a favor! Think of the time you would have wasted over the years on things that she did not appreciate. (She sure needs improvement on the delivery, but at least, however ackward, she conveyed the message of don't waste your time.)

Nina T.

The first year I sent out hand made Christmas cards, my MIL asked where her card from my DH was. I asked if she receieved the card I had made and she commented that she had received it , but thought maybe it was a mistake or something was wrong. I asked what she meant and she said she is accustomed to getting a pretty hallmark card from her son each year at Christmas like she sent to us. I apologized to her for her feelings being hurt and then passed the phone off to DH. Later that night I told him that her Christmas, birthday, mother's day etc cards and gifts where his problem and not mine anymore. :evil: I was sooo hurt.

Funny, DH got the opportunity a year ago, to give her a plug for my handmade cards! I made all the invites for his retirement ceremony (from the US Navy). I had sent her one as a courtesy, knowing she would be unable to attend. Not realizing I had made them, she went on and on to DH about the lovely "engraved" invitations we had sent out and how ever could we have afforded to have such lovely custom work done? :twisted: That's when DH piped up that I had made them and that I ENJOY making cards and gifts and that her comments to me 2 years earlier were very hurtful.

In the end: MIL now appreciates my efforts and looks forward to cards I send her. HOWEVER, my DH still has to get his rear-end over to Hallmark and get his OWN MOTHER a "pretty" card and send it to her for Bithday and Christmas (this is MY decision since it is HIS mother) 8) I think in the end, I won.

When people say "You have too much time on your hands," you should say something like...

"Oh, don't you think you are worth my time? I do."

or a more cutting tone

"Oh, I thought you were worth it, but if you don't think so..."

The first year I sent out hand made Christmas cards, my MIL asked where her card from my DH was. I asked if she receieved the card I had made and she commented that she had received it , but thought maybe it was a mistake or something was wrong. I asked what she meant and she said she is accustomed to getting a pretty hallmark card from her son each year at Christmas like she sent to us. I apologized to her for her feelings being hurt and then passed the phone off to DH. Later that night I told him that her Christmas, birthday, mother's day etc cards and gifts where his problem and not mine anymore. :evil: I was sooo hurt.

Funny, DH got the opportunity a year ago, to give her a plug for my handmade cards! I made all the invites for his retirement ceremony (from the US Navy). I had sent her one as a courtesy, knowing she would be unable to attend. Not realizing I had made them, she went on and on to DH about the lovely "engraved" invitations we had sent out and how ever could we have afforded to have such lovely custom work done? :twisted: That's when DH piped up that I had made them and that I ENJOY making cards and gifts and that her comments to me 2 years earlier were very hurtful.

In the end: MIL now appreciates my efforts and looks forward to cards I send her. HOWEVER, my DH still has to get his rear-end over to Hallmark and get his OWN MOTHER a "pretty" card and send it to her for Bithday and Christmas (this is MY decision since it is HIS mother) 8) I think in the end, I won.

When people say "You have too much time on your hands," you should say something like...

"Oh, don't you think you are worth my time? I do."

or a more cutting tone

"Oh, I thought you were worth it, but if you don't think so..."

Duplicate!

My step mother once said to me " I don't blame you for making your own cards - they are just getting so expensive to buy" I was thinking OMG that stinkin card cost about $50. Geez!!!

I'm sorry to hear the people at the office and your MiL were insensitive to your efforts and your pride in your work. Regardless of what they think of handcrafted items, or any stereotypes they have about people who create them, the folks who received your gifts should have had the grace and common decency to be appreciative and thankful that someone would put time and effort into acknowledging them or their birthday.

However, you can only be responsible for how you behave. Those insensitive folks carry the responsibility for their actions, and if they chose to send you negativity, that is something that is their issue, and not yours. It is sad that they dismiss so much of the love and goodwill directed at them in life because it isn't appropriately manufactured and commodified for them.

If continuing to make cards for your MiL doesn't bring you any enjoyment, then I agree that sending her an e-card, mailing her cards from the dollar store, sending her blank generic cards with a birthday wish written inside (between my husband and I we have a box of these kinds of cards!), or giving her a phone call on her birthday is a good idea. Choose whichever option that doesn't leave a bad taste in your mouth.

If thinking about her at all is unpleasant, maybe try stepping back and think of her and her unfortunate attitude in broader terms. If your mother had this attitude, wouldn't you feel bad for her and want people to turn the other cheek a little bit on her behalf? It's okay that your MiL is rude to you and you are still nice to her; it doesn't make you less of a person.

As with all free advice, feel free to disregard it! I have done a lot of thinking on this issue because my MiL tends to drive me up the freaking wall. In the worst light, she can come across as greedy, selfish, spoiled, and self-centred. I had to do a lot of thinking and praying before I could finally let go of my judgements of these traits enough to let her issues affect her only. Before I did that, I was hurting my husband and risking interfering with his relationship with his family, which are the last things I want to do to him.

Double post. oops!

The first year I sent out hand made Christmas cards, my MIL asked where her card from my DH was. I asked if she receieved the card I had made and she commented that she had received it , but thought maybe it was a mistake or something was wrong. I asked what she meant and she said she is accustomed to getting a pretty hallmark card from her son each year at Christmas like she sent to us. I apologized to her for her feelings being hurt and then passed the phone off to DH. Later that night I told him that her Christmas, birthday, mother's day etc cards and gifts where his problem and not mine anymore. :evil: I was sooo hurt.

Funny, DH got the opportunity a year ago, to give her a plug for my handmade cards! I made all the invites for his retirement ceremony (from the US Navy). I had sent her one as a courtesy, knowing she would be unable to attend. Not realizing I had made them, she went on and on to DH about the lovely "engraved" invitations we had sent out and how ever could we have afforded to have such lovely custom work done? :twisted: That's when DH piped up that I had made them and that I ENJOY making cards and gifts and that her comments to me 2 years earlier were very hurtful.

In the end: MIL now appreciates my efforts and looks forward to cards I send her. HOWEVER, my DH still has to get his rear-end over to Hallmark and get his OWN MOTHER a "pretty" card and send it to her for Bithday and Christmas (this is MY decision since it is HIS mother) 8) I think in the end, I won.

I have been hearing the "You've got too much time on your hands" comments since I started scrapbooking (long before the stamping bug hit!) Now, I just say, "No, I don't. It's just a priority to me. I'd rather do it than watch television, and so I do!" That usually shuts them up, because most people then realize how much time they WASTE sitting around watching television!! :D

I have been hearing the "You've got too much time on your hands" comments since I started scrapbooking (long before the stamping bug hit!) Now, I just say, "No, I don't. It's just a priority to me. I'd rather do it than watch television, and so I do!" That usually shuts them up, because most people then realize how much time they WASTE sitting around watching television!! :D

I'm trying to thiink of a recruiting statement... "This is MY job, wouldn't you like to have this much fun at yours?"

I don't know.

My MIL is the same way. OH well, I keep giving her homemade cards. And I think she appreciated them a little more now. Also, her friends do see them sitting on her mantle.

I really don't like RUDE people.

Sorry I can't help!

I have been hearing, "You have too much time on your hands" or "I just don't have the time to do that!" since I started scrapbooking years ago (pre-stamping.) My response now is, "No, I don't have much time, either. But, I'd rather be doing this than watching tv, so I do!" That usually shuts 'em up, because most people realize just how much time THEY waste watching tv!! :D

Erin in Okc
Seven days without stamping makes one weak!!

too much time
 

I make things for the folks that I used to work with and they often say 'you have too much time on your hands' followed by 'I'm jealous, I wish I had the time'. Perhaps the ladies that work with your husband just didn't finish the thought - or maybe they are just truly thoughtless. Either way, don't let these uncaring comments keep you from enjoying what you do with your stamping. Find another outlet for your creativity that will appreciate it. I send cards to all of the shut-in/nursing home members of our church. Not only does it brighten their day, but their relatives appreciate it too.

oh goodness
 

I to am so sorry to hear someone treated your love of stamping and your heartfelt handmade items. I to have also gotten, WOW! you have way to much time comment, and I am like NO I DONT, I work full time, full time mom, wife, bill payer, cook, maid ARGGGGHHH. Ditto on the blood boiling. IT just started. As long as you are passionate, and you love what you do, no one should ruin that for you. AS far as MIL, well MIL are notorious for stupid comments, mine never appreciated anything handmade I did, until one christmas she got a 40 page scrapbook full of her "angel" (grandson) and from that point on she always compliments me.

So poo on the girls and you MIL, keep up the good work and just know the rest of us appreciate you!

Are these people idiots to not realize that taking the time to make something should show them that you LIKE them? Duh? A trained monkey could pick out a card at the local stationary store! I'm never good at coming up with good zingers to tell people that make rude comments. But maybe something like "I enjoy showing people I care about them by giving them something I've made and put my heart into. I'm so sorry you can't appreciate that."

I felt so bad this week. I missed my brother's birthday. Didn't remember until the day of. :oops: So I sent him an e-card. It was one that really fit him very well. (It had something to do with the birthday song and passing gas! Need I say more?) My mom called me later to say that when she spoke to him, he way saying how he hadn't gotten my card yet. He looks forward to them and has saved every one I've ever made! Can you imagine how fast I ran to my stamp room to whip up a masterpiece? But it's nice to know a guy appreciates the hand stamped gifts!

I agree that these people should be marked off the handmade gift/card list. There's no point in making something for people who never will appreciate it. I don't really expect people to keep my cards for very long, but I love hearing when they do. My SIL saves them and uses them in her scrapbooks. :D

I actually had a similar experience with my DH (who really should know better by now!). We always exchange cards at Christmas, and he really takes a lot of time picking out a very special card from Hallmark and writing a special message inside. Since I've started stamping, I've made all my cards for him (even more special in my mind), but this year I just didn't have time and used a store bought card that I had stuck away. Anyway, he made a comment about how special it was that I actually went out and bought him a card this year. He really got an earful for that one! :x

The very first card I ever made was for a girlfriend's daughter's 1st birthday. It was simple but very pretty. When my friend opened up the envelope she said "Oh, a homemade card" and put my card to the side.

Needless to say, she hasn't gotten a card from me since!

I've been hearing, "You've got too much time on your hands," and "I just don't have time for that," since I began scrapbooking years ago. My response now is, "I don't have much time either, but I'd rather scrapbook than watch tv, so that's what I do!" That usually shuts 'em up, because most people then realize how much time THEY waste watching tv!! :D

Erin in Okc
Seven days without stamping makes one weak!

Unless someone is a stamper, I don't think they can really appreciate the creativity and joy you put into your projects. I think that is why we all love to get those comments on our cards in the gallery, here ,from people who really do appreciate them and understand how much fun they are to make. Don't let them get to you... post your cards here and we will appreciate them!

I get only positives( at least to my face) about my cards. I never write in them so they can use the card also. I do give my not so perfect cards to the people that I know don't appreciate them.

OMG - elizabethfromorange (hi there! I would not throw your stuff away, and have not! :LOL:)

take mamak's advice:

:| SEND HER SOME DOLLAR STORE TOILET PAPER! :|

After reading these various "rude" reactions my first thought was that these people have no class, no culture and no manners and probably do not own a single piece of real art and yes I think most of the cards and gifts I have seen on this site ARE art! So the fault is not in you or your gifts, but in the recipients!! I am so lucky, my co-workers love my cards and love getting them as gifts. BUT this is the exact reason my sister can not get into card making. She loves to make things, but can not bring herself to spend time on a card that may be tossed into the trash. I do not think this should stop you from making and giving hand made cards and gifts as I know for a fact that many a store bought gift gets given away or even tossed (there are lots of really bad gifts out there!) and it is not up to the giver to say what happens to a gift. So keep making what you want to make, ignore the people who make rude comments (they do not deserve a gift from you anyway), and concentrate on the people who appreciate what you do.

I know the feeling! Last Christmas for 3 of my son's teachers I made a stack of 10 different cards with coordinating envelopes. To go with the theme of "everything you need to send a card" I also included a packet of 10 postage stamps and an ink pen. I tied them up with a nice ribbon, wrapped it in tissue paper and put them in a decorative holiday box. I was shocked when only 1 of the 3 teachers sent me a thank you card. I nor either of my sons were ever acknowledged for the gift. I know some people don't like homemade items and/or have differents styles and taste but I would have thought a simple thank you, be it in writing or verbal, was in order regardless if they liked the gift or not.

Wow, I feel bad for you! That was so ignorant of your co-workers. My MIL in an ignorant thing too, and now when I have family dinners, I make favors for everyone but her. What I do is I pack up the favors in bags of take home leftovers so she doesn't see them. She did it when she took the "treat" out of the lovingly stamped and put together Christmas Sleigh I made last year, and crumbled up the Sleigh and threw it on the table. I didn't say a word to her, I just looked at one of my 4 children and said "Now Angela, make sure you don't ruin your little sleigh mommy made you!" and walked away.

She is really the only one who has ever offended me so far! I am sorry you got hurt by that comment. You should have said, I really don't have alot of time on my hands, I just use what little time I DO have to make nice things for unappreciative people like you! Turn around and walk away! Michelle

Buy the ugliest, cheapest cards you can find on closeout. Oops was that rude? My bad :twisted: How about just re-carding then? When she sends you a card (if she ever does that is...don't you find the people who make the rude comments are also the people who don't reciprocate in kind) anyway, use white out or a sticker or something to cover up the original signature and then sign it yourself. If she has the gaul to say something THIS time, just say you knew she must have liked it quite well since she sent it to you and you wanted to be sure she received a card she liked.

Too snarky Miss M?