I prefer to make my sympathy cards in blues or subtle tones.
Things I learned when saying goodbye to my stillborn son:
I didn't like sympathy cards in bright cheery colors. I wanted to mourn.
I didn't want to hear that God doesn't give more than we can handle.
And whenever I smell flowers now, I think of a funeral. Why did they have to be brought home?
That was torture. It took me years to be able to make floral cards ðY~¢ Maybe I should have kept one and sent the rest to a hospital or to a nursing home?
Present Day... They're pretty, but I don't want to smell them.
Now that I've depressed myself, I need to make a cheerful card!
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Mon, May 20, 2019 @ 2:51 AM
Your colours are perfect for your card. I'm sorry you are feeling sad, but remembering your precious son will never be the wrong thing to do. I'm sending a hug x
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Mon, May 20, 2019 @ 4:32 AM
This is so pretty. It has just the right amount of color....a bit of bright yellow mixed with a soft green & blues. A perfect cas style sympathy card~
Jen, words can't express my feelings right now for you. I'm so sorry you had to experience that pain of losing your son. People don't understand what it's like or how a woman feels unless she's gone through that same situation.
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Mon, May 20, 2019 @ 5:34 AM
I made sympathy cards for both my cards today, and I have to agree with you, I would much prefer more subtle than bright colors on them. Those who have had great losses deserve to share in the mourning rather than "cheeriness". A cheery thinking of you card a month or more later might be welcomed, but too soon to the loss, I feel like you. Let sadness take the time it needs in the grief process. I hope you have found that the love for that lost child has never died, and it taught you a deep love for other children.
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Registered: December 4, 2010 Location: Minnesota Posts: 16610
Mon, May 20, 2019 @ 6:24 AM
Jen, your sympathy card is really beautiful. I love the softer blues and greens for sympathy cards too.
My heart goes out to you Jen for having a stillborn son. There just are no words for it. I know most people forget that you will remember those milestones that "should" have happened along the way in your son's life. Love always endures so know it is ok to have sad days too. Big hugs my friend! ~Karen.
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Mon, May 20, 2019 @ 6:42 AM
I'm sorry for your loss even if it's already longtime ago, I know you'll never forget!! Your sympathy card is very pretty lovely colors, and me too I agree with subtil colors, when I've lost my first husband I received only black and white cards and that was really sad too, so difficult to chose the right color sometimes
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Mon, May 20, 2019 @ 7:03 AM
Hugs and prayers for you today, Jen. They say that time heals all wounds, but I know that isn't so. There will always be a precious and bittersweet place in your heart where your beloved son lives forever.
Your floral sympathy card is beautiful in these muted tones.
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Mon, May 20, 2019 @ 8:50 AM
Blue is the perfect color. Love the set of stamps you used, Jen.
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Mon, May 20, 2019 @ 9:52 AM
I'm so sorry that you were given such a terrible grief in your life....no one should ever have to endure that. I'm with you about the subtleties of a sympathy card. Soothing colours, not busy, this is lovely Jen xx
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Registered: November 28, 2004 Location: St. Paul, Minnesota Posts: 11240
Mon, May 20, 2019 @ 10:31 AM
Your beautiful card really caught my eye, Jen. But, of course, it is your story that brings tears to my eyes, and memories of my own stillborn daughter. No matter how many years go by those memories are always close at hand.
One thing that I learned through our grief was that it is never to late to send a sympathy card. Those that came later were, in some ways, more meaningful.
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Mon, May 20, 2019 @ 11:42 AM
A gorgeous sympathy card, Jen. I agree with much of what you wrote.....every time a card came, I cried. I have started to throw the flowers out.....Hugs to you, Jen.