The monitor calibration thing can be really tough. Do you have an XpedX nearby? They have lots of colors (or at least their sister company, Arvey, which is near me, does.) I have started ordering swatch books to keep on hand for situations just like yours. I know the Paper Mill Store has swatch books that you can order; here's their homepage:
http://www.thepapermillstore.com/ These guys are a wealth of information. Good luck!