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Michellelovesscrap 08-22-2006 07:48 AM

I am bumping this thread from last year. Great advice!

Smay819 08-24-2006 04:12 AM

I agree, Michelle, it's all great advice. Thanks Jami for starting it!

Miss Sunshine 08-29-2006 05:57 PM

Thanks for the Tips!
 
Hello There!

I just joined this site and I am loving it! Your ideas inspired me to become an activy member of this community. So, I tried to have my photo fownloaded... I wasn't able to do it (I think it has too many bites) but I will try again later.

Hope to chat with you again!

Cheers!

Wilma :o)

stampin-sunnychick 08-30-2006 11:54 AM

Jami~

What a sweetheart you are! Thanks for sharing and doing this...k, so if I'm doing all this and nobody likes me what then?

lol, just kidding...this is the best online community on the internet! I call it my 2nd home! So does my Bunny (DH)~lol

Smiles, Hugs, and Blessings!

Jami 08-30-2006 02:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Miss Sunshine
Hello There!

I just joined this site and I am loving it! Your ideas inspired me to become an activy member of this community. So, I tried to have my photo fownloaded... I wasn't able to do it (I think it has too many bites) but I will try again later.

Hope to chat with you again!

Cheers!

Wilma :o)

Yea Wilma! You got your picture/avatar to work! Now you just need to jump and keep posting!

Jami 08-30-2006 02:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by stampin-sunnychick
Jami~

What a sweetheart you are! Thanks for sharing and doing this...k, so if I'm doing all this and nobody likes me what then?

lol, just kidding...this is the best online community on the internet! I call it my 2nd home! So does my Bunny (DH)~lol

Smiles, Hugs, and Blessings!

That might require professional help Tracy!!!:p :p :p

Michele670 09-08-2006 09:38 AM

Thanks for the enthusiasm in your advice, it sure does help in taking away the anxiety. I have been dabbling with stamping and scrapbooking for a few years, I have a wonderful demonstrator and now this site is giving me the much desired creative helping hand. I'm a newbie looking to dive in and have fun.
Michele in PA

Jami 09-08-2006 09:43 AM

Welcome Michele! Yes - please do dive in! Your sig line is cracking me up!!!!

disneynutmom 09-09-2006 05:05 PM

Jamie I loved your advice in here that's so true about making friends online, I've been in several groups and it's so much fun making friends and finally getting to meet them. I'm still real new to the stamping and all so it may take me a bit to get into it but I will try to post more and learn all I can. I look forward to getting to know you all and to seeing all the cards i possibly can.

Joan B 09-10-2006 01:33 PM

I think this post needs a bump and could also go "up" in the stamping area where more folks lurk!! Great post.

cjrollins 09-17-2006 08:00 AM

Thanks for all the tips! I'm new at all of this and everyone so far has been super helpful!!:D

suzymax09 10-08-2006 09:54 AM

Thanks for all the good ideas. I am new to this site. Rhonda




Quote:

Originally Posted by Jami
OK - maybe I misrepresented myself a tad as I have no idea how to influence people, but I do have some tips on making friends here at SCS! Recently I've seen several posts from people feeling left out or ignored. That made me very sad and being a problem-solver by nature I came up with what I hope are some helpful tips to feeling more "in" around here. I know I've made some wonderful friends and with almost 40,000 of us here, there are plenty of friendships to go around.

Making Friends on SplitCoast

1. Post, post, post! - The more people see your posts the more familiar they will feel with you and the friendlier they become (assuming your posts are nice http://forums.splitcoaststampers.com...ilies/wink.gif ). If you are new here post a little intro of yourself so people can get to know you. Welcome newbies when they post their intros.

2. Post comments in the gallery. Each comment brightens someone's day. That is bound to come back to you in a positive way!

3. Start a gallery of your own and upload every chance you get. People appreciate your gallery samples and this is another way for folks to become familiar with you. Besides, having a gallery is so much fun! Once you get past the nervousness of the first upload, you'll be addicted. Be sure to label your first upload as such or even start a thread in General Discussion so everyone can be sure to take a look.

4. PM people. If you have a question about a card in the gallery PM the creator. If you see that someone on a thread is from your area PM them to say hi. If you see something that seems like an "inside joke" PM the poster and ask them about it. I've done all of these things and have made some great friends this way. Not every PM will turn into a friendship, but it helps to put yourself out there.

5. Join a swap. My first SCS friendships were formed when I decided to become a swap hostess. Once you get your swap cards back e-mail or PM the other swappers to tell them what you liked about their cards.

6. Join the RAK Forum - You can never go wrong by sending RAKs.

7. Put up your photo as your avatar. I know not everyone likes to do this, but people do feel comfortable with you faster when they can put your face with your name.

8. Don't take it personally when you get "ignored". If you start a thread and don't get much or any response - don't take personal offense. With thousands of threads going on at any one time it happens to everyone from time to time (yep - even big-mouth me has started threads with nada response!). You can always bump your thread a few times if necessary or let it die and move on to something else. Just know that people are NOT ignoring you on purpose! This place is tough to keep up with!

9. Help others. Answer questions whenever you can even if it's just to give them a link to the info they need. I have a couple of "pet threads" that I always refer people to when I see those particular questions (which reminds me I'll need to find them again here in this new format) - beaded pens and paint cans. If you come across a helpful thread bookmark it so you can refer people to it in the future.

10. Be positive whenever possible. We all have gripes, complaints, vents, etc. and one of the great things about SCS has always been the freedom to express ourselves, but before hitting the submit button it's always a good idea to re-read what we've written and evaluate whether or not the negative is really necessary. Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't. Sometimes it is, but can be toned down or tempered.

11. Go to the Weekly Challenge Forum and join a challenge. There's a new one almost every day - each running for a full week - and you can jump in at any time! They are really fun and again another great way to start getting familiar with more people.

12. Be a friend. The first step to making friends is to be a friend. Find a way each day to encourage someone or make someone's day a little better. The smallest comment or gesture can mean so much!


SCS is such an awesome community - truly my happy place. The creativity and caring and generosity of the people here just blows me away! Stamping yes, but also so much more!!! No one is required to do any of the things I've listed above. They are just suggestions to try if you want to.

How about you - do you have any suggestions to add to the list? Please post any ideas you have about how to make friends and feel really "in" around here. Or tell us a little story about a friendship you've cultivated here and how it started!

I BEG YOU - please no negative posts on this thread. There are plenty of threads already going for that. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE let's keep this a happy helpful thread! And keep it bumped up for Saturday. HUGS!!! http://forums.splitcoaststampers.com...es/biggrin.gif


rcmarroquin 10-11-2006 10:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jami
6. Join the RAK Forum - You can never go wrong by sending RAKs.

I joined the RAK group a few months ago and I have met some of the nicest people. I would recommend for people to join it.

Kathy J 10-18-2006 08:23 PM

I had so much fun reading ALL the posts.
I to am new to all this and find this very helpful.
I do have a question though.
At what stage do I get to leave "Glitter Queen"? I don't even like glitter!!! :)
Thank you,

Kathy

Jami 10-18-2006 09:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kathy J
I had so much fun reading ALL the posts.
I to am new to all this and find this very helpful.
I do have a question though.
At what stage do I get to leave "Glitter Queen"? I don't even like glitter!!! :)
Thank you,

Kathy

Hey Kathy - you just need 25 posts! Here's the breakdown
//www.splitcoaststampers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=16093

You can go post in the gallery - so easy to post 10 or 15 comments a day to let people know you like what they've done and make their day!:)

stampitup 10-23-2006 09:00 AM

Great thread!!

suzymax09 10-23-2006 10:03 AM

Hello I hope I am doing this right. I love looking and getting ideas. I will have to see if I get brave enough to post some cards.

Miss Sunshine 10-23-2006 01:39 PM

Hi Rhonda!
 
Welcome! Please do post your cards! We all learn and get inspired with each other's work. I will be looking forward to see your work!

Cheers!

Wilma :)

dmlean 10-26-2006 05:08 AM

This is a great thread. Yes, so many of us feel left out or overlooked at one time or another. I just started uploading my cards not long ago. It does brighten my day when someone posts a comment. That is why I try to post as much as I can. I have made one good friend so far that we pm each other nearly everyday, just to see how each other is and what we did that day.

I am typically shy, and I am not very outgoing, so this is very good for me.

mischief732 10-28-2006 05:59 PM

I joined this site in April. I have learned so much from this site. It took me a few month, but I actually have a small, but growing gallery. It was so fun to see the comments on my first upload. It also was a confdence booster to. I am trying to post more and have joined some fun swaps. I've just started looking into other areas of the forums and it amazes me how diverse the subject matter is here. This is a great site!
Melisa

Danado2 10-28-2006 06:35 PM

um, I am confused
 
Can someone tell me what is a RAK? And what is bump...?
This site is a bit overwhelming...

Jami 10-28-2006 06:40 PM

RAK = Random Act of Kindness...often it just refers to mailing a card to another SCS member...in that case the card is called a "RAK".

bump....when someone wants to bump a thread back up to the top of a forum they will often just post "bump" because they have nothing else to say...just want others to see the thread.

Welcome to SCS! You might want to check out some of the threads at the top of the Getting Started Forum :) //www.splitcoaststampers.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=22

Jami 10-28-2006 06:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Danado2
Can someone tell me what is a RAK? And what is bump...?
This site is a bit overwhelming...

Also - you probably don't want your e-mail address in your sig line as it can really open you up to spam. Anytime you put your e-mail in a post you want to do it something like "u can stamp 2 at global sbc global dot net", There are computer programs that scan forums for e-mail addresses and the @ and the . help them id the addresses. I learned this tip from another helpful SCSer!

heart 10-28-2006 06:45 PM

What a great post, Jami!
THis should be sent out to everyone who joins SCS!
A wonderful "How to!"
I'm going to take your advice and have my son take a digi photo of me.
Maybe he can photoshop it so I look younger and thinner!!!
LOL!!!

Danado2 10-28-2006 06:49 PM

thanks for the heads up...Now to remember how I got it on there in the first place...

Jami 10-28-2006 06:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Danado2
thanks for the heads up...Now to remember how I got it on there in the first place...

go to Quick Links at the top right of this page...edit signature.

Jami 10-28-2006 06:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by heart
What a great post, Jami!
THis should be sent out to everyone who joins SCS!
A wonderful "How to!"
I'm going to take your advice and have my son take a digi photo of me.
Maybe he can photoshop it so I look younger and thinner!!!
LOL!!!

I'd love to see your picture Michelle!!

Danado2 10-28-2006 07:31 PM

found it! Thanks. Is this what you meant about my email address?

Jami 10-28-2006 08:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Danado2
found it! Thanks. Is this what you meant about my email address?

Yes, but you really don't need your e-mail in your sig line. People can e-mail you from the drop down menu that appears when they click on your user name.:)

cameroz 10-30-2006 08:11 PM

Thanks for all the info, for the newbies like me. I was bit by the wood and now love rolling into stampin.

skyetarr 11-07-2006 04:18 PM

Hello!
 
I am new to the site, and excited to meet people while learning about stamping. I was disappointed that I won't learn how to 'influence' people- but I have heard there is a book out there for that :-D

I just placed my first order of stamps, and am eagerly awaiting them. I strangely enough became interested in card-making after receiving cards from my mom (which she had purchased from my sister's high-school best friend- username: 'mackbrad').

My stamp order should come on Friday, and I will begin my mounting odyssey. Expect lots of questions from me, since I know nothing!!!!!!!

Hello, again!- and thanks for the guide on postingpolitness and SCS etiquette!

Miss Sunshine 11-07-2006 04:24 PM

Cheers to you!
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by skyetarr
I am new to the site, and excited to meet people while learning about stamping. I was disappointed that I won't learn how to 'influence' people- but I have heard there is a book out there for that :-D

I just placed my first order of stamps, and am eagerly awaiting them. I strangely enough became interested in card-making after receiving cards from my mom (which she had purchased from my sister's high-school best friend- username: 'mackbrad').

My stamp order should come on Friday, and I will begin my mounting odyssey. Expect lots of questions from me, since I know nothing!!!!!!!

Hello, again!- and thanks for the guide on postingpolitness and SCS etiquette!


Welcome! Welcome! You will LOVE this site. Everybody is very he;pful and some are a hoot! :p There is always someone with an answer for whatever question you may have. Believe me! I know!

Wilma :-D

skyetarr 11-07-2006 04:45 PM

Thank you for the welcome, Miss Sunshine! You are my first reply. Yay!

This website is fantastic and I am so excited to start stamping when my order gets here on Friday. Maybe the postman will bring it sooner... :)

Miss Sunshine 11-07-2006 04:50 PM

Me again!
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by skyetarr
Thank you for the welcome, Miss Sunshine! You are my first reply. Yay!

This website is fantastic and I am so excited to start stamping when my order gets here on Friday. Maybe the postman will bring it sooner... :)


I know the feeling! I am always on the endge of chair waiting for my orders!

Hope to see you work posted soon!

:-D

skyetarr 11-08-2006 04:32 AM

Thanks, and I will check out your stamped stuff!

stampinwithliz 11-16-2006 03:32 PM

thanks for the advice, especially us newbies!

liz

Vee 11-20-2006 04:03 PM

Don't be blunt. Be someone else.

splitcoaststampers 11-22-2006 04:03 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by heart
What a great post, Jami!
THis should be sent out to everyone who joins SCS!
A wonderful "How to!"

well actually, we *do* send this out to everyone who joins SCS! when people register we send them back a whole list of helpful and fun links to get them started. a link to this thread happens to be one of them.

maryp 12-04-2006 10:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lzappa
AMEN, SISTAH!

ROCK ON WITH YOUR BAD SELF, JAMI!!

Lisa

:lol:
What she said!!!;)

Jami~~I can't believe I never saw this thread! It's all great advice!
And you ROCK!:D

Jami 12-04-2006 10:11 PM

Awwwww thanks Mary! The feeling is mutual. I seriously cannot belive you never saw this thread before!


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