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Old 08-01-2007, 01:29 PM   #1
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I had a hard time dealing with my grandmothers death about a year ago. But today really sucked. A so so day at work to come home to even worse news. Sometime last night my uncle committed suicide. He wasn't that old (2 kids) both in high school. If there's one thing I hate it's death. He was always the joking uncle. It kind of hit me. I hate dealing with death and here it is again. What are somethings that you do to cope?

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Old 08-01-2007, 01:58 PM   #2
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I'm so sorry to hear about the recent deaths in your family. I just lost my last living grandmother a few months ago. Everyone mourns differently. Personally, I think it helps to talk about it but that doesn't work for everyone. Just give yourself time and know it's okay to cry.
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Old 08-01-2007, 02:04 PM   #3
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Marie,

I am so sorry for your loss,, death is always so difficult, more so when it is unexpected. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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My grandfather past away in March. It was really hard for me and still is. For me, other than antidepressants, what I find helps is trying to remember things. I think that death is so hard because we're afraid of forgetting. For my grandfathers memorial I made two big boards to have out at the service. It was all pictures of him and us grandkids. We spent so many hours just recalling stories. And while I still miss him and cry for him pratically daily I do so while remembering things about him and that to me is comforting.

*big hug* It's hard I know, but try to think of things your uncle did with you. Being the crafty people we are now is the perfect time to make an album of just him.
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It's like when things start to shine a little here comes life with a smack. I have to say this past year there has been more going on in my life then I really needed to deal with. However crappy all that was it's like I am waiting for more aweful news. I don't know what to expect. I mean this came out of no where a complete shock to everyone. I feel so bad for my cousins to be without a father and my aunt to be without her husband. I can't imagine what drives a person to such great lengths. I know I have been depressed but I sought help. Yeah the thought occurred to me that "what if I wasn't around anymore" but NEVER NEVER NEVER would I act on it. I just feel bad because I would never want to go through this myself let alone a family member. When my mom told me he was the last person on earth that I thought something would have happened to. I HATE funerals!!!!! A LOT!! in a way I don't want to go but he's my uncle..............this is just crappy!
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Old 08-02-2007, 08:31 AM   #6
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Oh Marie,
I am so very sorry about all of this. Death is hard anyway, but there is that extra difficulty with suicide. It hurts, on it's own, on top of the death.

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Old 08-03-2007, 02:37 AM   #7
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Marie,

I'm so sorry for the losses you're experiencing. I've never been able to deal with death and can't imagine the suicide of someone I love. My dear Mom died almost 20 yrs ago and I still am in mourning. For me, it does help to talk to people I love about her. Also, prayer has been helping me to hold things together these days. (My DH and I are separated--my choice, but things are a bit tough).

Please know that there are lots of people out here thinking about you and keeping you in our prayers. Hugs to you,

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I'm so sorry to hear about your losses. I lost my Mom a year ago March and I still miss her terribly. . . death isn't easy on any of us. I found that keep- ing a journal is helpful. I stamped and made my own using images I thought she's like or reminded me of the good times. The mourning takes time and everyone goes about it their own way. . . Take care of yourself so you can be there to help others. . . {{{{hugs}}}}
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