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Old 05-07-2007, 06:00 AM   #1
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Question HELP on wording for shower invites

I have a friend who asked me to make shower invites for her sister's bridal shower. The couple has lived together and doesn't need the usual presents so she was asking me to come up with a way to say to give them cash
The best I could come up with is the following poem:


To save you the trouble of reading registry list;
To not burden you with having to wrap gifts.

________ doesn't need a toaster for the morning toast;
I'll clue you in on what the bride wishes for most.

The couple is hoping to add to their down payment stash;
So the perfect shower gift would be a gift of cash.

Feel free to offer whatever of your choosing;
By attending _________'s shower, we wouldn't be losing!

Honest opinions please! Any suggestions?
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I think this is so sweet, what a great way to word it. I think you should totally go with this!
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hmm just my opinion, although I understand the reasoning, I'd be put off with it and would really think twice about attending.

The poem is cute though.
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I thought perhaps I should expand on my opinion a bit. There's always issues around WHO gets invited to the shower vs WHO gets invited to the wedding. If you're one of the lucky ones who gets invited to both, then you will have PRESENTATION to deal with at the wedding. Presentation means, they only want money and not gifts. So, it would leave a bad taste in my mouth if I got an shower invitation asking for money instead of gifts. It just seems cold and impersonal.
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Very cute poem! BUT, it is really tacky to request cash, and I know that I would not want to attend a shower for someone that is so blatantly asking for money.
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Old 05-07-2007, 07:06 AM   #6
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Even though the poem is cute, I think it is very tacky to ask for cash. I thought the purpose of a bridal shower was to "shower" the bride with gifts she would need to start married life. If the couple has been living together and has everything, why have a shower.
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Old 05-07-2007, 07:13 AM   #7
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Not to offend you or your friend but I agree with the above posters about asking for cash...however this was not your idea...you're just being asked to make the invites so with that said your poem is cute!
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Old 05-07-2007, 07:22 AM   #8
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Thanks for all the quick responses. I know I'm not sold, too, on asking for cash. I told my friend I was going to put a posting on here to get input from all of you on what you thought of the idea.
Something to ponder.
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Ditto on the cash issue, but the poem is really cute! Have they registered at Bed Bath & Beyond? We registered there and they told us that their policy is "do what the bride wants" - including returning items and giving the couple cash. It's a round about way to get what you want, but may go over better with the guests.
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Cute poem, but I concur with everyone in saying that it's tacky to ask for cash. It would honestly make me think twice about attending the shower.
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Honestly, since you've just been asked to make invitations...the poem is a cute one...but I think you may find no matter how cute the invitations are, many people will choose not to come because specifying cash is, well, rude, as the other posters have concurred!

I would hate to think of your beautiful invitations getting tossed because the guests are offended--the thought of sitting around and opening envelopes of cash or checks and then, what if the bride announces the amount? It's a horrifying though, but people have done that. I'd probably just stay home.
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Just another vote for loving the poem but not liking it's purpose - I'd be taken aback by such a thing no matter how cute the invites are!
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Great poem, but I hate showers where people request $$. To be honest, when we get invited to one, we make sure to bring a gift!! You can register so many places even for your honeymoon or home depot. Many people would give money or gift cards anyway so why be greedy? I agree with the suggestion that all of your hard work would be wasted.
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I agree with the others that asking for cash is pretty tacky. (Cute poem though!) Maybe they could register for stuff and then just return it? Most people include a gift receipt. Actually if you register for things at Target and people didn't include the gift receipt, they will still let you return the item for a gift card. (But the item has to be on the gift registry.)

I understand the need for cash over gifts, my DH and I just got married two years ago. We had so many duplicates of things just by combining our household, not to mention gifts.

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Old 05-07-2007, 10:16 AM   #15
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I would not be offended at all to be asked for cash. I never know what to buy and whatever I buy, they may get 7 of the same item you only need one of, such as a toaster, iron, whatever.

I would be quite relieved to give cash in a nice card.

I have been to showers where they were 'registered' and got so much stuff, it wouldn't all fit in their vehicle and they needed to take several trips.

Cash or cheques (checks) don't take up much room.
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I agree with the thought that asking for cash is rude, and you have been put in a sticky situation. Why not suggest to the bride- to- be that the shower take a different angle and ask guests for recipes. Those could be added to an album and used forever by the bride and groom, just a thought...
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nope, I wouldn't attend. I think it is tacky to ask for cash.
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i agree with the above posts.. its tacky to ask for cash..but i guess you are just making them.. so if thats what the bride wants to do.. do it.. nobodys going to look down on you or anything..
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It's a cute poem...but I think it is offensive to ask for cash....They should just put a note in the invitation that says...

Your presence is your present....and then their friends and family will probably give them cash anyway knowing their situation....

Honestly...if someone asked me for cash I probably would not do anything including going to the wedding........Sorry...I understand where they are coming from but I just don't think it is tacky!
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Why are they even having a shower?
We had the same situation in our family and we hosted a "good wishes" get together for the bride to be.
Each person who attended brought a recipe which was then made in to a cookbook for the bride.

just a thought....
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You will spend your time on these invites and most people will find them too tacky for words. Not your fault and your poem is cute but asking for cash is crass. My two cents worth.
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Why are they even having a shower?
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Count me as another vote for lovin' the poem, but NOT lovin the cash only thing. I really liked the idea of a good wish/good dish shower... bring a recipe! What a great idea! How about suggesting to your friend to give a personal shower... you know, nighties, lotions, ect.
If the bride doesn't need anything, she shouldn't be getting a shower...what's the point?! I think it's a lot to ask of friends and family... I wouldn't go!
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Exactly, if you don't need gifts etc... and aren't really going to register anywhere, why have a shower anyway? SURELY there's something they need. Its like they're registered at the money tree, or western union.
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hehe couldn't resist . . . . Now that we've all been sucessfully sidetracked by the notion of asking for money instead of gifts, the real question was about the poem. So . . . . Perhaps a little levity added might not be such a bad thing. I'm horrible at writing ditties but I took a stab anyways.

Jack and Jill been shackin up
They've loaded up on household stuff
Lots of linen and loads of pots
Dozens of glasses, and and outdoor stock

They don't need toasters cuz Jill don't cook
Jacks just happy to have a kitchen nook
They don't need blenders to fix fancy drinks
They don't need frying pans or dishses in the sink

What they'd like, is for you to come
Share the joy of their love as one
No heavy boxes to lug around
Just bring your checkbook
When you come 'round.
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Ba ha ha ha!!

Love the shack up poem!!

I find the cash thing tacky, too.

Threw a 50th anniversary party for my hubby's parents, co-hosted by his brother & SIL....she had a money tree (and I hid in the corner in shame). I made the invitations, and I swear she had 2 handwritten pages of info she wanted to include on the invite. Ooops, it wouldn't fit!

Maybe they can ask for gift cards to a favorite store (like saving for a HUGE purchase kind of thing)...at least someone attending would feel like they were launching something in this couple's life.

Tough situation!

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Wenchie - loved your poem! TOO FUNNY

I'm going to try to talk my friend out of asking for money for shower. My husband and I "shacked up" before we got married and loved getting new stuff for gifts.

Thanks for everyone's input!
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