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Old 07-31-2006, 04:29 AM   #201
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"We're starting to check out charter schools as an alternative and there are two in our area that have some potential. We would consider private, but aren't sure if how they would handle services or would even consider him.
Any input would be appreciated!" - Becky

Becky, our son is currently in a private school...and we receive services from the public school. We pay taxes too, so anything that a public school child can receive is available to us - including a bus to come and pick our child up and take him back if necessary. we are lucky to a have public school across the street from our school, so the principal walks him over each day for services.
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Barb - my thoughts are with you - I can certainly relate to some of what you are going through.
Living in Okinawa makes it a little tougher to even try to explain why your child is doing 'odd' things. We have a huge communication gap here. Just today while at the beach with my son, he was swimming around a group of local children (he loves to look at people from underwater) and I couldn't even explain why he was behaving the way he was - they only spoke Japanese. The best thing I could do was just get Taylor to swim with me so he wouldn't keep bothering them. They just kept staring at him and I have no idea what they were saying.
And birthdays - Taylor has no interest in other children most of the time unless they are doing something that fascinates him. Even at his own birthday he really doesn't care about gifts - he likes to open things up, but has no interst in what he opens. The other children don't understand that at all.
I guess it will always be something - someone staring - someone that doesn't understand - someone rude (I've had my share of those) - the list goes on... and sometimes it can be soooo frustrating. Even I don't always 'get' his moods and behaviors.
Anyway, thanks for listening to me ramble. It's been a long day and I guess I'm ready to call it a night. It's almost midnight here. Have a great day everyone!
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I just had to share what happened in my life yesterday. My DD of 15 is learning to drive. (yikes) She pulled the van in the garage (which she has done many times before) while I walked across the street to fax a report before the end of the day. I watched her drive in the garage and then went inside to use the fax. 15 minutes or so later, I see my DS (13 w/ asperger's) coming across the street with the 2 babies. He was very upset with his sister and screaming at her. I forgot to mention that she had followed me to the neighbor's. He was furious and telling her how dangerous it was to leave the car on in the garage with the door closed. OMG! I was shocked to say the least. After I calmed him down, he explained that he heard a humming/buzzing noise in the garage and went to check it out. The van was on and the garage door was closed. He immediately opened the garage door and then turned off the van. He tried to call the neighbors, but could not find the number, so he scooped up the babies (4 mo & 2y) and went to the neighbor's house. I am SO thankful he was listening all of those times that I explained the dangers of carbon monoxide (exhaust fumes) to his sister as we prepared for the driving lessons and the responsibility of getting behind the wheel. At this point in my life, my aspie child is the easiest to handle. DD just doesn't think we should be so upset with her.
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Yeah for your DS! What a responsible lad you have. My son's former teacher used to tell us that the 20 autistic kids she worked with were much easier than her one NT teenage daughter. She joked that there were much fewer tantrums in the classroom as well. Good luck with adventures in driving.
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Barb - I so know what you're going through - we had a really good community nurse and he said be prepared for ups and downs and plateaus. You just don't know when they're going to hit you. It is hard when they seem to be doing really well and then the behaviour changes. Just remember you are the best person to be with them, it's hard, but they are so great because they have us. Keep your chin up and keep chatting to us all when you need us!
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Aaron's appointment with the neuropsychologist was interesting. The testing showed no problems with cognitive skills. His issues are with what the doctor called the executive skills; impulse control, staying focused, organization, etc. Those skills originate in the frontal lobe of the brain which isn't done developing until around the age of 22. He suggested Strattera (sp?) would help Aaron with the executive skills (the child psychiatrist suggested that medication as well). So we'll check into that. This doctor agreed with the child psychiatrist that the autistic classroom is not the right place for Aaron, and that the special ed room is where he should be. Reports from both doctors will be sent to the school and I have a meeting scheduled for 2 days before school starts with the head of special ed for the district, Aaron's special ed teacher from last year, his regular classroom teacher from last year, and the gal that will be running the autistic room. We will review the reports from the doctors and decide what classroom Aaron will be in, most likely the special ed room.

Does anyone have experience with Strattera? We have to do something about Aaron's behaviors. He gets physical when things don't go his way and seems like he just can't stop himself, which totally matches the conclusions of the neuropsychologist. I don't want to drug him into a zombie, but right now our lives are he.. Friday morning he was pokey getting ready to go and I had to get to work. Because he had been so pokey he didn't have time to eat breakfast before we left the house, so I put a breakfast sandwich for him on the seat in the van and told him where it was. He ended up sitting on it and then dropping it on the floor of the van. I said - no problem, I told him I'll quick go back in the house and warm up another sandwich. I headed for the door of the house, turned around because I heard him getting upset - and he had thrown the sandwich at me - hitting me square in the forehead (he's got really good aim). The sandwich just exploded. He had just gotten so mad that the sandwich fell on the floor - he couldn't control his anger. Last night he's playing a game on the computer and got frustrated - started hitting the keyboard and banging the mouse on the table. My husband said he was done on the computer since he couldn't control himself - and then there was an all out battle. Aaron just kept hitting and fighting. My husband was restraining him and Aaron wouldn't stop kicking, head butting, anything he could do. While being restrained we ask him if he's done fighting, he'll say yes, and as soon as you let him go he's punching you again. This goes on and on until he's physically exhausted. I don't think we have any choice but to put him on some medication. Makes me very sad.

It feels like we're experiencing one bad thing after another. Wednesday night someone tried to break into our house. I got about 4 hours of sleep that night. This week I've had the period from he.. Ended up in the ER yesterday, and I hope the meds they gave me work. This has never happened to me before.

Hope this weekend is better than last.

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Barb,

I so feel your pain. Jacob goes/went through a pretty physical agression stage just recently. Honestly, we thought that he had been misdx'd. After visits with 2 dr's it pretty much came down to how he was dealing with stress and anxieties. It pretty much started when we were getting ready to move and our house was on the market. Then we moved over Christmas (holidays are really stressful for Jacob) and he not only started at a new school, but also was transitioning from home schooling. Life was pretty horrid for awhile. The school here has access to skills trainers that are basically aides with training in behavior management. The ST works for the state dept of mental health, not the school, but had to have all kinds of authorization from the district to get one. Anyway, it has made an amazing difference in Jacob's behavior. When you have your next meeting you may want ask for the social worker from the school to be there and try to get behavior management written into the IEP. This could be important if he strkes out at somebody at school and may keep him from being suspended. Also, the social worker should be able to recommend a behaviorist to work with Aaron at school and home to get him to use alternatives to lashing out.

As for the straterra, it won't help with the physical agression. It is an ADHD drug and will help with attending issues, i.e. ability to sit and focus on a task. Jacob was on it a couple of years ago. It was better than the Adderall which helped him focus, but made him very edgy and even more rigid about things. Straterra also helped some with his sleep patterns as it isn't a stimulant like Adderall and Riddelin (sp?). The meds aren't meant to zombie the kids, and shouldn't. If they do, then the wrong meds are being used. Currently, we aren't doing any meds. Jacob is doing two biofeed back programs through the social worker at school. One is a computer program and the other is a visual thing where he wears special sunglasses that flash different frequencies of light. The theory is that both of these increase the blood flow to the frontal lobe of the brain and basically train the brain to do this on it's own, thus helping our kiddos - doesn't cure them, but mitigates some of the behaviors. It takes something like 40 sessions to know how much it is helping. Right now we've done something 20 and are seeing some improvements.


Now for our week. School started last Friday and seems to be going well. Jacob spent the first two days in regular ed as the special ed didn't start until the 3rd day of school. This way the kids learned the routine of the regular ed room and met their class mates. Jacob had a lot of anxieties about moving regular ed and special ed rooms, which showed in some really wild behavior, but he was also able to express it to us - huge step for him! Anyway, at school he is doing well and his behavior is good enough that he will probably be mainstreamed soon for science and social studies along with things like pe, Hawaiiana (state history), library, computer, etc and only be in special ed for language arts (really doesn't like to write) and math (gets the concepts really well, but has trouble with calculations). He's even making friends and interacting with more kids at recess and he's greeting kids when arrive in the morning and talking to them as we leave in the afternoon Keeping my fingers crossed that this continues.
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Dessertlady - very interesting information about the special glasses. I should remember to ask one of the doctors about that. Greeting the other kids - that's great!

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I am so happy I found this thread. I was shocked to see so many people here...There are so many children now being diagnosed and it keeps growing. My son Zachary is 6 and was diagnosed when he turned 3. The delay was on my behalf with the diagnosing because my DH refused to believe me when I told him something was wrong. His regular Ped. Dr said he was just delayed and no reason to worry....Well I just knew something was not right. A child psychologist diagnosed him and it hit me like a ton of bricks to have my suspicions confirmed. Over the years he has had various services from ABA training to speech therapy, OT, PT and I could go on. I moved here to KS about 1 year ago {former NY'er} and am still awaiting an appointment at KU Medical Univ. with a specialist in Autism....The only one in the area....I was in awe of the length of the waiting list...Anyhow...My son does not seem to fit the critera as an " Autistic Child". He shows some traits but not most. He is very loving and affectionate, loves hugs and kisses, plays and interacts with other kids to a certain point....His language has advanced very much since we arrived here. He used to use hand gestures for his needs. He needs assistance with everyday needs, brushing teeth, bathing, his shoe laces, etc. He knows how to get dressed and run away fast though..lol...He has come a long way and it is very hard at times. He can not be trusted to stand next to me...he likes to run and explore...so I can't turn my head for a minute...As a parent I find it so heartbreaking to see him locked in his own world and the frustration that he must feel at times...Have any of you seen that look on your childrens faces when they are just looking at you?? Do you wonder what they are thinking? Feeling?...I am having a hard time scrapbooking his pictures..I have not even done 1 page yet...I wanted to start with making an album that is like a book explaing his life and situation...It is hard to find the words to come up with to express life with autism....Does anyone have the same problem? I wish they would do a stamp set for autism.....

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Hi Loorraine,
Welcome.

I've had similar struggles with my 2 little guys. I swear someday they'll both run marathons or at least sprints. And I do long for a time when they can easily express their wants and needs and observations. More than just, "Want Buzz show" or "Chips please." There is a beautiful poem I have hanging on Caleb's door called "Bulid me a Bridge." It is written from an ASD child's perspective. I think of it when of them has that look you were talking about. I'll post it a little later.

I do sometimes find it hard to scrapbook for the kids. I just try really hard to make every page a celebration of who they are. I figure they are for them and I want them to know how loved accepted they are.
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As I said, I keep this on Caleb's bedroom door. I read it when this autism journey get to be too much for me or when I think things will never get better or when I just want to give up. Hope you like it.

This poem is from Soon Will Come the Light:A View from Inside the Autism Puzzle by Thomas Mc Kean. Future Education Inc., Arlington, Texas
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[B]Build me a Bridge

I have known that you and I
have never been quite the same.
And I use to look up at the stars at night
and wonder which one was where I came.
Because you seem to be part of another world
and I will never know what it's made of.
Unless you build me a bridge, build me a bridge,
build me a bridge out of love.

I long for the day that you smile at me
just because you realize
that there is a decent and intelleigent person
buried deep in my kaleidoscope eyes.
For I have seen the way that people look at me
Though I have done nothing wrong.
Build me a bridge, build me a bridge,
And please don't take too long.

Living on the edge of fear.
Voices echo like thunder in my ear.
See me hiding every day.
I'm just waiting for the fear to lift away.

I want so much to be a part of your world.
I want so much to break through.
And all I need is to have a bridge,
a bridge from me to you.
And I will be together with you forever,
and nothing can keep us apart.
If you build me a bridge, a tiny, little bridge
from my soul, down deep into your heart.[/B]
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Lorraine, you're welcome.

Barb, I've be thinking about you. Hopefully things will start looking up soon.

And Kristen, that is great that Jacob is greeting the other kids and making new friends. I have every confidence that he'll continue to do well. He'll probably rock at social studies. As it is a lot of memorization and not a lot of interpretation at this age.

Hope you all had a good weekend. Take care.
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Hi everyone! I hope it's ok to join you! My 9 yo son, Andrew, has Asperger's. He started receiving services when he was 2 yo (OT, PT, psychology). He was then diagnosed with Sensory Integration Disorder and they knew something else was wrong too, they just couldn't figure out what it was. Several years later and many psychologists later, he was diagnosed with ADHD, aspergers, bi polar, and who knows what else!! We didn't know what he had!!! When he was 6, we tried medication, but it made him act very autistic, so we discontinued it. We haven't done anything for the past couple years but things are getting so bad, that we took him in this summer and he has again been diagnosed with Asperger's.

I really tried to do the 'no medication', but I ended up coming home with a prescription for Lamotrigine (anyone try this?). Andrew is VERY AGRESSIVE, very mean and very strong. I can hardly keep him in a hold anymore, what am I going to do when he is 13? I am terrified he is going to hurt his 7 yo sister or us. He threatens to kill us all the time.

Barb, reading your posts sounds just like my life! I know how you feel and it sucks!

We also have a 15 yo nephew with autism. He is very autistic!! Some of you have commented on the 'looks' and 'stares' we all receive when we are in public. My nephew has a tag (like a name tag) that he wears all the time. It says "Please be patient! I have autism." I think it has helped tremendously.

Sorry to ramble on, it's just so nice to ramble to someone who understands what you're going through!
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What a joy it was that I came across this thread. I would have never known that there was a support group here for Parents of Autistic children on SCS. And that we all stamp and/or scrapbook makes it even nicer.

A little bit about me.....I'm Christine, mother of 3. Two daughters and one sweet, loving, smart, kind, fast and autistic 5 year old boy. Andrew was officially diagonsed in March with PDD, but we have suspected for a year prior that he may have autism. He developed normally as an infant, but around 14 months his speech began to regress and he had ear tubes inserted because of excessive ear infections. Once the hearing issue cleared, he still did not speak like he should. We did the Birth to 3, PAT, etc....Andrew received speech therapy, OT and PT. My DH and I attributed his delays to not hearing very well when he was an infant.

He has been in Early Childhood Special Ed for about 2 years now and will possibly enter Kindergarten this fall. We are in the Military and just moved to Germany, so I am not sure yet if he will be put in Kindergarten or if they will keep him in Early Childhood for one more year. The schools here are run by the Department of Defense and we wouldn't have been sent here if Andrew could not have been accomodated in the school system.

Andrew's speech is still very delayed, though he has begun to say many more words in the past few months. At first, he was non-verbal until about 3, now he is saying 3-word combinations and repeating things he hears on tv. His vocabulary has increased tremendously, which makes me and my DH very happy and hopeful for him.

Surprisingly, the plane ride overseas went better than expected. Andrew treated the airplane like a car and buckled up, after I said "Ready, set, go". I did give him some Bendadryl so he would fall asleep during the overnight flight. His pediatrician said this was the only thing we could give him that didn't require monitoring, and it worked like a charm.

Andrew is also in the process of potty training. While at home, he prefers to be nude, but never has an accident on the floor. If we go out, he wears Pullups that sometimes stay dry. He doesn't want to wear underwear - every time we put a pair on him, he takes them off, even under clothes. I was worried that he wouldn't potty train, so I am very happy that he is.

I'm sorry to ramble, but I'm glad to find this group and to see that there are a few Military families here as well. I look forward to sharing our experiences with all of you and maybe help someone else.
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Welcome Christine! I too am stationed overseas - DH is military and we are in Okinawa. Our DODDS school here is great - they really try hard to get what you need for your child. In the states we had to fight for services. So, hopefully, in Germany you will have good luck with the system.
I had to smile when you talked about your ds always being naked. Our nickname for a long time for our son was 'naked man'!! He loved nothing better than being naked! He would still prefer that, but has learned that it isn't 'appropriate behavior' as he says. Even now as soon as he walks in the door, he undresses and puts on a pair of boxer shorts - it's all he will wear in the house. Maybe your son would like boxers under his pants?? Just a thought.
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It's a mood stabalizer (sp?). Hopefully he won't get so angry about things and lash out at us. We started him at 25 mg., then it 2 weeks it'll be 50 and then 100 mg. I am really hoping it works!

I have to laugh about everyone's kids wanting to be naked!!! MINE TOO!!! Andrew is 9 and he still strips down to nothing when he comes home. He HATES underwear and never wears them. We have tried both briefs and boxers. He goes comando and he can't stand to wear anything but sweats.

One of Andrew's hang up's lately is his nose. "Mom, is my nose bleeding? Mom, is my nose running?" He walks around all day with a kleenex over his nose, he won't swim and just sits by the side of the pool with his kleenex!!
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Gina,
I must have missed your post earlier. Welcome. Thanks for the tip on the name tag. You'll have to let us know about the medication. Here's hoping it helps.

I have the same kind of "what if.." thoughts. Usually when Caleb is laying on the ground crying because he doesn't want to leave or is overstimulated. A 40lb child is hard enough to scoop up when they are less than willing. An 80lber -YIKES! I better be off to the gym.
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Gina and Barb,
Thank you for the kind welcome. Great tip about the boxers, I will have to try that.

I've only heard good things about the DoDD schools, so I am confident they will place Andrew in the appropriate class for him. There is an Autism Support Group here through EFMP that I'm going to join as well.
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Welcome Gina, Lorraine, and Christine!

Christine, glad to read that there is a support group for you through EFMP and that he's enrolled. Jacob has been enrolled since he was dx'd. I have actually met a couple of families who wouldn't enroll their kids because it might negatively impact the service members career, ie be flagged for some assignment. I was pretty astounded that they would put a "good assignment" ahead of the kids well-being. I'll get off my soapbox, now. Anyway, good luck with DoDD. We're OCONUS in Hawaii, so we don't have DoDD, but the local schools which are hit and miss, but trying to improve. We've been lucky and have gotten great support for Jacob at the school his in now To me the other hard thing with moving is getting into the specialists at the military hospital. We were in the DC area twice and had a great Dr. at Bethesda Naval Hospital (once we got in to see him appoints were easy to get). Now, we're sort of back at square one, had to get into the system which meant going to the regular pediatrician to get a referal to the developmental dr. Got the referal, but then had to wait for them to have an appointment, etc. Honetly, they could pull up that he's in EFMP, why can't Tricare make it so that EFMP kids are automatically sent specialty clinics when the family gets to the new duty station? Okay, I'm ranting on a bit, forgive me it's late and I can't sleep and I'm sick! I will say it was nice to have someone see him with "fresh eyes", didn't change the dx, but reassured us that he hadn't been misdiagnosed - lots of anxiety issues with the move, he was presenting very bi-polar like behavior.


I had to laugh at the underware/naked thing! Jacob loves to run around in his underware also! When we potty trained him at 3 1/2 we let me run around the house naked, worked great to get him to go, but had a heck of a time getting him to wear underware. We ended up putting them in the underware in his shorts and then had him pull them all on at once. He's almost 10 and now asks if he can just wear them, usually right before dinner. (DH also does this, usually waits until after dinner. Did I mention he has some the traits for AS?) He has in the recent past also been known to come out from his bath naked and walk around the house when we had company. Although the other night when we had company, he did put on PJ's before he came back down. The issue we're running into now is that he pulls on his crotch a lot, mainly when he's stressed/nervous. School started 1 1/2 ago, so he's been doing it a lot again. I tried switching detergant, etc. but nothing has helped. Jacob has a male skills trainer and he suggested just letting him go commando, so we're going to try that. I just had to laugh when he suggested it because it took us so long to get the kid to wear them!
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Welcome Gina and Christine!

My Megan likes to run around naked too!

Thanks so much for all your insights on aggressive behavoir we are just starting to embark on it, and I am unsure what to do, being she is female and developing I wonder how much is hormonal and how much is aggression. Summer is always a bad time for us, she is less structered and the 2 month break from school is long. We are also getting a lot of rivalry from here towards her sister do any of you have this problem?
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Kirsten,
I know exactly what you are talking about when it comes to Tricare. I am fearing the same situation when we have to go to the doctor here at Landstuhl. The good thing is that Andrew has already been diagonsed and everything is in his file. We actually had to see a civilian Pediatrician at the University of Missouri Children's Hospital to get the official diagnosis. Luckily, all of those records have followed us to Germany where the Army docs can be updated on Andrew's progress.
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Oh the woes of Tricare. They cover quite a bit, but the process is SO long. I hope it gets resolved for you soon.

As far as the naked thing goes...Caleb is usually happy in his underwear, but this afternoon he refused to put it on and kept flinging it at me. Finally Dh put him in his room and told him naked time was for the bathroom or the bedroom, so when he put on his underwear he could come out. Caleb has never been so defiant about it before. Maybe he was reading this thread over my shoulder earlier today.
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I just had to share what happened in my life yesterday. My DD of 15 is learning to drive. (yikes) She pulled the van in the garage (which she has done many times before) while I walked across the street to fax a report before the end of the day. I watched her drive in the garage and then went inside to use the fax. 15 minutes or so later, I see my DS (13 w/ asperger's) coming across the street with the 2 babies. He was very upset with his sister and screaming at her. I forgot to mention that she had followed me to the neighbor's. He was furious and telling her how dangerous it was to leave the car on in the garage with the door closed. OMG! I was shocked to say the least. After I calmed him down, he explained that he heard a humming/buzzing noise in the garage and went to check it out. The van was on and the garage door was closed. He immediately opened the garage door and then turned off the van. He tried to call the neighbors, but could not find the number, so he scooped up the babies (4 mo & 2y) and went to the neighbor's house. I am SO thankful he was listening all of those times that I explained the dangers of carbon monoxide (exhaust fumes) to his sister as we prepared for the driving lessons and the responsibility of getting behind the wheel. At this point in my life, my aspie child is the easiest to handle. DD just doesn't think we should be so upset with her.
Oh, my word! Wow, so glad he WAS listening! And glad they are all okay. I can see my 7 year old (ADHD/OCD, but 7 going on 20) doing this & not understanding why we are upset!
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Ladies, I admit that I do not keep up with this thread. Life in our home is just so busy & one catastrophe after another with 2 special kids! But, I wanted to share what happened today & get input/feedback. Sorry it's so long!

The girls were at a friend's house. All 3 girls decided it would be
fun to throw mud into the above ground pool they were swimming in. The
friend is almost 11, but has ADHD & OCD--officially, and unofficially
the mom thinks she's on the spectrum, too. My dd's are 10
(Aspie/ADHD) & 7 1/2 (OCD/ADHD). They ALL know better. Well, the mom
got really mad at them, or so she said, (though I truly can't see her being super mad & she appeared calmer than I would have been!) & called the dad, who was also mad & was giving their daughter her punishment when he got home. (likely she would clean out the pool). She said she couldn't punish my girls (to her daughter, who kept asking what THEIR punishment was), that it was up to me. So, I assured them the girls would be disciplined for this.

Fast forward to leaving the house. In the car I start probing to see
who started this. Usually it is my 7 year old. This time I think the
11 year old started it, but Natalie joined in quickly. Bethany was
still in the pool & they wanted her out. As we talked, N. said,
"(friend) and I said we felt guilty, but Bethany said she was
innocent." I asked B. if she felt bad for what she did. "No. Why
should I feel bad. It wasn't that bad to do it." As the conversation
continued it sounded like she never feels "guilty" for doing wrong
things. I asked her & she point blank said, "No, I don't feel sad when
I do something that hurts someone." I THINK partly it was because she
knew she was in trouble & was trying to be "tough," but I also think
it's partly true. Now, I knew when she was little this was true. She
never showed remorse. She SEEMS to show some remorse now, but really,
when SHE does something wrong, and we tell her to stop, she gets mad
at US & doesn't really understand that she was wrong. She has become a
very sweet little girl in general, and doesn't hurt people on purpose
except her sister! LOL! Sister can be really mean, so it's usually
deserved. Sister always blames others, so B. may have learned it from
her. BUt, natalie also shows remorse eventually if she actually does
something bad OTHER than hurting her sister in anger.

So, my big question now is, "Does she feel remorse? Does she feel sad
when she does bad things? Will she ever understand this? Will she obey
just for the sake of following rules, but not really know why she's
doing it?"

Later I had a "head banging" situation (my head, not hers!). The other mom took the girls to McD's for lunch (I'm not so nice, I would have said, "sorry, it's pb&j!" or even worse, taken them to McD's but not let them get the toy! It's Polly Pocket right now so that would have been a good consequence!). Tonight dh asked Bethany, "Did you get a new Polly Pocket today?" No. Well, she did get a new one, but it's one like one she already has. She just
couldn't answer "Yes" since it wasn't a new style. I could hear him
getting frustrated (I was in a different room). He finally got it
phrased the right way.

Ay-ay-ay. She's grown so much developmentally, then we have these
moments. He's got her on a timer to finish dinner & I just saw her up
running around. "Behold, Children are a blessing from the Lord..."
repeat 3 times! LOL!
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Wow,Lori your house sounds like my house my oldest daughter (nerudevelopmental delay)11 rarely ever feels remorseful, we have been battling this for years, the only time I can remotely get her to care is when we take something of value away, and that in it self is hard because she doesn't seem to hold much dear to her. Now at her age we have thown on hormones and we are a recipe for disaster most days. My youngest (autism) is very remorseful when she does something witch I find a little off considering she is the one who is supposed to be in her own world, she has a vert guilty consience and hides very little from you, will bring you broken or wrecked item and say sorry.
Got to love them though, or so I'm told........lol
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Today was the first day of 1st grade. Brandon has attended the private school for k3,k4, and Kindergarten. We finally got a diagnosis of aspergers just a few weeks ago, and I was eager, although nervous...to share this new info with the school. I met w/the principal and Brandon's teacher yesterday...and was met with open arms. we brainstormed all the things that could be done - most of it was said by THEM - even though they've never had a child like Brandon before. They mentioned that if he didn't finish his work...it'd probably be better not to deprive him of recess; but instead to just send it home to be finished. YES! The teacher mentioned that maybe she could cut his tests into 3 pieces, so that they are much shorter goals. YES! The ideas went on, and on, and on - I danced out of there.

We are going to continue at this school knowing that we've done everything that we could do. we are starting C.A.R.D, and we are working on getting OT and language thru the local public school. we are also getting an LD tutor - b/c although Brandon isn't LD, his learning style is soooo different than the NT - that he requires a very special tutor to help with what I can't do (b/c I get so frustrated *sigh*)

Anyways - I'm jumping for joy. I dropped him off this morning and the teacher hugged him and took him to his cubby. He didn't glance back. a far cry from former years.

OH one more thing - I don't know if you all know this...but if you ever go to Universal Studios (I live in Orlando...) you can go to guest services and ask for an 'autistic pass' - which will allow you to bypass all the long lines. A huge gift for a family who has already gone thru so much just to get out of the house

I am gleaning so much from your posts - mostly just feeling like a big family with you all. thank you for your honesty and ideas that you've shared - you've been a huge help!

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Christie,
That is great news for you! I'm sure such a relief for you and your husband. My 5 yr old will be starting Kindergarten in a few weeks in a new school and I'm not sure what to expect as of yet. For the past two years he's had the same Spec. Ed teacher and small classroom. He is much more social now, so I do have hope he will be alright. It might take a while to transition, but he's made many strides over the summer, so I am very optimistic.
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Christie,
I'm so happy for you and Brandon. That is great news. Having a supportive school makes a huge difference.
Christine, hope the transition to kindergarten goes well. Caleb starts K this year too, but he did a test run there this summer for ESY so it should go rather smoothly. Well, I can hope anyway.
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Today was the first day of 1st grade. Brandon has attended the private school for k3,k4, and Kindergarten. We finally got a diagnosis of aspergers just a few weeks ago, and I was eager, although nervous...to share this new info with the school. I met w/the principal and Brandon's teacher yesterday...and was met with open arms. we brainstormed all the things that could be done - most of it was said by THEM - even though they've never had a child like Brandon before. They mentioned that if he didn't finish his work...it'd probably be better not to deprive him of recess; but instead to just send it home to be finished. YES! The teacher mentioned that maybe she could cut his tests into 3 pieces, so that they are much shorter goals. YES! The ideas went on, and on, and on - I danced out of there.

We are going to continue at this school knowing that we've done everything that we could do. we are starting C.A.R.D, and we are working on getting OT and language thru the local public school. we are also getting an LD tutor - b/c although Brandon isn't LD, his learning style is soooo different than the NT - that he requires a very special tutor to help with what I can't do (b/c I get so frustrated *sigh*)

Anyways - I'm jumping for joy. I dropped him off this morning and the teacher hugged him and took him to his cubby. He didn't glance back. a far cry from former years.

OH one more thing - I don't know if you all know this...but if you ever go to Universal Studios (I live in Orlando...) you can go to guest services and ask for an 'autistic pass' - which will allow you to bypass all the long lines. A huge gift for a family who has already gone thru so much just to get out of the house

I am gleaning so much from your posts - mostly just feeling like a big family with you all. thank you for your honesty and ideas that you've shared - you've been a huge help!

Christie
I just found this thread. Christie, I'm so happy for you and your son! That is awesome. I'm a teacher and a parent. This year, DS will be coming to my school. He will be a student in my special ed classroom for 2 hours a day. It should be interesting! He will be with a colleague of mine, who is also a special ed teacher, for 3 hours a day and in adaptive PE one hour a day. It seems like a lot of special ed, but middle school is tough these days.

About the Orlando line skipping passes, that is great. When I read about already going through so much just to get out of the house, I had to laugh. Sometimes it's better to laugh than cry. I sooo get your transition difficulties. It took us a 1/2 hour to get out of the house on Monday to go to dinner.
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I have just scanned through some of the post and will make it a purpose through my day to get to read them!

This thread is great! The Dr just told me that our 5 yr old strongly has Aspergers accelerated by a brain injury. I cried. Not because I was sad, but because I now had an answer. I was so tired of everyone telling me the things he did was just a "normal boy" thing. I had 4 sons prior to him ranging in age from 3 - 18. I knew things where not right.

For those who do not know my situation. We adopted my birth nephew after his family (my baby sister, her DH & newborn son) was killed 3 years ago in a car accident. My now son was the only survivor. Things were not right from the beginning. He was very distructive & disobedient all of the time, escepially in public. I begun to hate leaving the house.

If you turn your back on him for even a second he will be doing something he knows he is not suppose to do, but will stop if you turn towards him and resume the second you are not looking. He has taken apart 3 beds and climbed into a hole he tore in the underside on one mattress. He has slept in our room for going on 2 years. At least we can both sleep knowing he is safe. His sleeping has improved from 4 hrs a night to 6. He does still walk in his sleep ocassioanlly. If he is wound up during the day he will not sleep at all. One of my family thinks "If I get him all tired out he will sleep better" That is the opposite! I keep telling him but he "knows better..."

DS has eaten a hole in the wall. We figured he started picking at a small pin hole that was there but knew he would get in trouble when we saw it on the floor that he had no choice but to eat it. If he has a hang nail he will peel all of the skin off of his fingers. At this point he has peeled the bottom of he feet raw. If there is a string on his clothes, they are done for! I say his mood swings are worse than a pregnant woman. He will be laughing and then crying in the turn of a head. I could go on forever....

I have had a couple of people try detoxification and remove all of the allergy foods from the child's diet. If he has any form of sugar there is no stopping him! For those people they say things are so much better. Has anyone tried that or I hear fish oils help too?
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Welcome, Debbie. Glad you are finding some answers.

We tried the Gluten free casein free diet. It works wonders with some kids, but we didn't note much change with DS. So we took him off of it.

We've not tried fish oils, but the kids do take Supra Nu Thera vitamins and DMG which are made by kirkman labs. We saw definite results with these. We didn't tell DS#1 teacher he was on them, and she called after a week and said how well he was doing, what a great listener he had been all week, etc. They have megadoses of B vitamins. Anyway, HTH.
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I know the whole 'cried - not b/c I was sad but b/c I finally had an answer' thing that you mentioned. Brandon was my 1st son and we're not supposed to compare w/other children...but I knew from birth that something was just 'not quite right'. At age 6 (just a couple months ago) we finally got a diagnosis. I fought the 'label' forever - but God really did prepare me for what was to come b/c when I finally heard the word 'aspergers' I was sooo ready for it. YAY something to research was my initial reaction.
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I have had a couple of people try detoxification and remove all of the allergy foods from the child's diet. If he has any form of sugar there is no stopping him! For those people they say things are so much better. Has anyone tried that or I hear fish oils help too?
We've been detoxing food allergies, preservatives, and metals for 1.5 years. I've seen improvement. But we don't guess and just buy things from the health store. We see a health professional that specializes in alternative medicine. They're hard to find. But they can order things you can't buy in the store. We use Standard Process supplements which you can Google on the net. BTW, I'm detoxing, too. It's helped with less frequent migraines.
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We've been detoxing food allergies, preservatives, and metals for 1.5 years. I've seen improvement. But we don't guess and just buy things from the health store. We see a health professional that specializes in alternative medicine. They're hard to find. But they can order things you can't buy in the store. We use Standard Process supplements which you can Google on the net. BTW, I'm detoxing, too. It's helped with less frequent migraines.
Thank you Jen! It is an avenue we are strongly looking towards. This is actually our 2nd Neurologist. We did not like the plan that the first one, plus at first she did not believe us, so went searching for an herbalist. My nurse mid wife referred us, and squeezed us in, to a herbal pediactric neurologist. We will meet with her again next week for a deeper consultation. I just got back from a week at my parent's and am exhausted from dealing constantly with him. I am so ready for this appointment!
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Me again....I had a situation happen tonight that really bothers me and I would like to know how you would handle it.

To what extreme to you let you Asperger child be unmonitored? Our son is only five but is very very destructive. Either my DH or myself try to be around him at all times. He is either with us or we go with him. Even a trip to the bathroom by himself, he gets distracted and will get into things and trash them, guaranteed.

So I also have a friend who has an 11 year old with Aspergers. They just let him run by himself at events. There is never a time that he does not start a fight or some other situation. After the other child steps up he runs to his parents. Now this boy is a very big and strong boy and will not blink twice about kicking or punching anyone. This boy does not tell his parents his action in the matter only how the other child re-acted. His parents just yell at the other child and go on. Tonight this young man was picking on, kicking chasing and grabbing my almost 11 yr old son & friend at a picnic we were at. The mother started yelling at my son for moving her sons shoes so they had a chance to get away from him. His mother as far as I can tell is in denial of her son's situtaion and does not believe he is accountable for his action in any matter. I told her if she has a problem with my child she is to come to me or my DH, not to yell at my child for any reason. Her & I did not leave in the best of terms and I do not want that. She is one who has come to me many of times for parental advice. How do I explain to her that the way she is not handling her son will only make it harder on him? Am I wrong? She was so happy when our DS was diagnosed so she could get more ideas. She won't even take her son to any more doctors. She just wants to learn through us. HELP!
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I don't think you we in the wrong, I think you handled it very well, our DD used to be as destructive as you described, she is now going on 10 and it has improved a 100 fold. It brings me to tears to think of those years everyday was a battle, locks on every door and cabinet always on guard for what she was going to do next, we used to say if it wasn't strapped to the ceiling it wasn't safe. As for your friend with the 11 yr old, I have also expirenced this with others, I belive they are in denial and maybe afraid to hear what is really going on, I don't know about you but I found it a relief to get a diagnosis, and be able to set up services. I don't know why some can cope with whatever come their way and yet others turn a blind eye and pretend nothing is wrong. Has the school not said anything the parents about the childs behavoir and maybe seeking some help for him?
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