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HUbby asked for a HUGE sacrifice..... wwwaaaahhhhaaaaa!
He asked me to "clean up my S" out of the living room.
I have a week to get my creativity into project folders and put stuff away.
For some odd reason he doesn't think, a tree, the couch, the end tables, and ALL my stamping stuff will look festive on ONE small room for the holidays!!! :shock:
The NERVE of him wanting creativity tidy and organized!!!! :LOL:
He is right - I have taken over the lioving room - but I've been stretching my brain and doing some neat stuff!!!
I asked him - What if I don't - he hit me where it hurts.......
I'll take your 05 Budget away as a punishment - if they kids get toys taken away - I can take your TOYS too!!!
The nerve of men - We work in the house and they work outside and in the garage (or building or whatever) NOW do their spaces ever get cleaned and neatly organized???!! probably not yet they expect ours to always be neat - what is up with that??!!
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It makes me really mad when I hear DH refer to my STUFF, my really wonderfull STUFF like that. And like your DH, you know he isn't saying STUFF, it is usually that other S word.
"get rid of some of that S--"
"Why don't you put that S- away"
"Don't you have enough S-"
Dont' get me started on the fact that when it comes to Christmas, I can't even ask for more of that STUFF, even though I really need some things like more adhesive, etc. When I was a SU rep people used to say that earning money for a cruise would help, but all that kind of talk just made him think of all the time spent away from the house so that didn't help at all and I ended up deactivating because it is hard to sell with "negative vibes" surrounding and defeatist attitudes sabotaging my success or enthusiasm!
I get so envious of all the hubbys that put forth the effort into helping us organize by the shelving, etc. Whenever I bring that up, it is met with, "why do you need more shelves, why don't you just get rid of some of that S-"
It really depresses me because more often then not I can't work on anything because I don't have a designated area right now. In the new house I am being promised my own room and hopefully I will get some help with putting together some shelving units and such.
I second the idea about moving the DH out and changing the locks, LOL!
Of course I ALSO think the personal stamp space for him to build you would be fantastic! I've been bartering for one of those myself. If it works, please let me know what you had to do for him to agree.
If it takes putting all my stuff on his side of the bed, it's THERE! LOL!
Geez - I hate to admite it, but your DH does has a good point about taking the kids toys away...so why not take your stuff away!
SO here's my suggestion. Tell him he need a place to put your stuff than it wont get cluttered around the house!!! It's the perfect opportunity to make a stampin' space Just for you! A corner in an dinning room, living room, office, or even your bedroom should work for now!!!! What a great excuse to by organizational containers/selves/cabinets!!!!
Thanks Kate!! I now have a good reason to be happy I don't have a husband. :lol: Of course, my daughter is trying to get me to clean up my house and buy a tree. NOT!! I'm so glad I'm in charge (yeah, right!!)
Yikes...that would be my punishment. I'd get a room that would collapse with the first wind and it wouldn't be finished until 2010 (assuming that he worked on it every night and weekend until then).
QC does have a point. My dh is like Pigfingers. UGH! Only his mantra is..."Why do all your hobbies have to be so expensive?!" Let's not take into consideration that he is a movie nut! OK, realistically, I do spend a lot more on mine than he does on his but at least mine is either memory preserving or memory making! lol
I love Paris' advice. Kids have toyboxes and rooms to put their things away. If your stamps and such are to be considered "toys" you need a place that you can put them away in. Not the garbage can either! :lol:
If you have a basement, you could finish it and it would improve the value of your home and give you a place to hang out. Maybe even a place for your dh to hang out too. His own little cave. :twisted:
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Isn't there something YOU can use as ammo???? My side of the bed, next to my computer and taking up ALL the built in shelves in my walk in closet is my somewhat organized/messy stamp stuff. On his side of the bed and in the garage is all his somewhat organzied/messy gun stuff. Doesn't your DH have any messes anywhere? Move the mess into your room like me and then what can he say? It's your room too and then there won't be clutter in the livingroom. I have even moved the coffee table into my bedroom :oops: . Now I have my computer, table, TV and stamps within arms reach when I am stamping. My hubby doesn't seem to mind so for now he can keep his side of the bed!
I agree with the rest....this is a perfect opportunity to point out your NEED for your own stamping space!
My husband started finishing our basement. The first room he did was mine! Why? because he was sick of my stuff in our bedroom...in our dining room...then it creeped into our garage ( I set up a table there to work on) for awhile...LOL!
However now that he is FINALLY done with the room he expects me to mess it all up by putting all my stuff in there! I tell him that I don't want to feel crowded. Now I need a bigger room! hahahaha :lol: :lol:
I so agree with you pigfingers!! I hear all the time about other demos and their dh being so supportive and all mine does is whine about the time that I am gone (2-4 times/month!) i guess that is because his job keeps him busy 12+ hrs a day and he would like some time together at home.. but I need something too! this is my sanity and my social outlet and it pays for my addiction :lol:
HE gives YOU a budget? I'm a sahm & his check is direct dep. I give HIM a budget!
Are you a demo? If not, you should be. I tell mine that every thing I make is tax deductable! lol
I LIKE YOUR IDEA!! My husband also asks how much he can have every time he wants something!! I guess that means I am in control! Well maybe not control cuz I have little self control when it comes to more STUFF!!!
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I'm glad I don't have someone gripping at me to put my stuff away. My dinning room table has been my craft table for quite some time! I normally put it in a closet (an organized one).. but here lately, it's been sleeping on the table at night!
Good point on the .... "build me a place to put it" idea! Something with LOTS of shelves.. and a nice desk! GREAT Christmas gift idea. I can't think of ANYthing that I would like more! other than.. a few (hundred) more stamp sets and accessories!!
Of all the nasty things to say!!!! I just think that is plain mean!!
I think I would have just started bawling and turned on the tears. Men can't take it when you start getting all teary eyed.
More likely, being a red head, I would have turned into a devil woman when he said that. :twisted: We live in base housing and sometimes the kitchen table is just the only place to work. Tell him to just get over it or yes, make you a nice place to work "this century"!!
Good luck!!!!
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Maybe I don't want one of those husband thingies you all talk about...he gives you the budget? My heinie! If you are a demo~that be YOUR money honey! I would sue...
Then again...I hear marriage is all about compromise...I would say use s-e-x as a weapon, but that is probably NOT compromise. :? I have never loved anyone enough to get married, so what do I know? Serously though, I would sue... :lol:
GOOD LUCK KATE!
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go to lowe's or home depot, get a few "L" brackets, some screws, an electric drill, and some wood, and put up your own shelves. Better yet, finish part of the basement yourself - it's not that hard, and quite empowering. No need to wait for him to do it!!
I did "straighten" my "mess" (yes its still in the licing room but moved to a corner and not smack in the middle!) and he walked in the door and said thank you!
As we were talking over afternoon tea - (yes it sounds glamous but not really!) I brought up the topic of "my space". He gave me an early gift and showed me he actually has a "plan" as in REALY drawings for the basement and asked hpw I wanted my "area".
I took him to the "spaces" gallery!!!
SO by spring - I will have MY room with a Formica Counter, plenty of work space and CABINETS!!!
I did NOT show him this thread!!! heehee!
You ladies Rock - thanks for the support! He really IS a good guy and I am thankful to ahve him around! Yes marriage is worth it!
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PS - as for the budget - he has one and I do too for our "fun" - so its not a one way street!!! Just wanted to clear that up!
It sounds like you have the same problem I do...our husbands aren't "trained" yet. One of our guy friends even told my DH last night, "Just do what I do. Nod your head and say, 'Yes, dear.'"
My DH even has his own room...a studio where he can work and shut the door. My stuff is in the open area of our basement where everyone can see the mess (and the kids can get into my stuff). I just have to tell him that I don't have the luxery of being able to shut the door when I am finished working for the night.
WOW, I think I need to borrow out my husband for a while... He bought me a house just to accomadate my Stampin stuff... he wanted to make sure the basement was large enought for my Stuff, and if the basement was not quite big enough he would keep looking! We found the most perfect house! My stamping area is about 900 square feet or more! He is also the one who encouraged me to start stamping to begin with... He just told me to add that! He is a wonderbar Husby!
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I am a new stamper and am trying to break my husband in...this is my first REAL hobby & I'm glad to see that stampers trade and sell their stamp sets, as that will be some justification to my finance-minded husband!!! However, he has his hobbies: computer stuff (which I benefit from) and auto restoration (don't care to benefit from that one!!).
Anyway, I understand stampers who have husbands that don't quite get it. I think he'll be all right in the long run...two of my stamping buddies work with him, so we're all working on him!! :twisted:
It sounds like you have the same problem I do...our husbands aren't "trained" yet. One of our guy friends even told my DH last night, "Just do what I do. Nod your head and say, 'Yes, dear.'
--Lisa
LOL :lol: How many times have I said to my DH "Life would be so much simpler if you would just simply OBEY ME!"
I used to have an unfinished basement area that I cobbled together with castaway rugs, tables and shelves (after my stuff got to be too much for the Dining Room!) You don't have to have a beautiful space to make beautiful things!
Ok, This is a room. It was posted by stamer_jamie in another thread about storage.
I like the "toy box" idea. My kids have toy boxes to put their stuff up. If they didn't, I couldn't complain about it not being put up.
Thumbs up for your hubby designing you a room in your basement. We have to remember that they are just mere men. Stupid words will always come out of their mouth ....like "clean up your s"... but in the end, just like your hubby, they usuaually make up for it.
I became a demo so that my budget is made by me. The money i make, I spend on more SU stuff. I would so like to contribute to the finances but not until I get MORE STUFF.... I mean...not until I get my business built better. Yeah, that's it.... I NEED all this new stuff to build my business to get more customers to sell more stuff to make more money so that I can then contribute. It takes money to make money....so give me some money to buy more STUFF!
__________________ Angie
Mother of three wonderful children (Brayton-17 months, Brianna- 5 & Kyle-eight) and one grown man (my DH).
DO NOT show the photos of this room to your husband!!! It will terrify him with the fear that you will loose your mind and want to duplicate it in your own home! :lol: These photos should only be shown to stamping addicts who need to justify their latest purchases by saying "At least, I don't have that much!" Husbands respond much better to photos of modest rooms that allow them to say "Hey, I could make you one better than that!"
i showed my hubby that site...and he responds with "I love you alot...BUT....." LMBO
That is my dream room.....!!! but then again, i would never see my family..so i am better off without it!!! LOL
Seems like the perfect opportunity to tell him you NEED your own stamping room/space. What a perfect Christmas present for you, huh?
You bet! That is all I asked dh for this year!!!! I even agreed to give him my SU profits to get started! I said - I don't need a ceiling or even carpet-just my own four walls to organize as I want so I can close the door and fit some girls in there for stamp camps! He said "OK" but we'll see what really happens!
http://www.picturetrail.com/gallery/view?p=999&gid=747156&uid=525564
Ok, This is a room. It was posted by stamer_jamie in another thread about storage.
HOLY CANNOLI! Now THAT'S a stamping room!! I think I'd be so overwhelmed by everything, I wouldn't be able to think. LOL
Does she have a business other than being a demo??
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You poor things! My husband always buys me everything on my wish list from SU!, TAC and CTMH for Christmas and birthday (Jan.) I get all the sell-a-bration sets free with my wish list stuff and my upline gets the sales. MY DH also lets me take over all the built-in cupbords in the dining room except the one nearest the computer for his stuff. He doesn't complain when I leave the WHOLE dining room in a mess for days at a time becasue he appreciates artistic interests. (He is an artist too) He also never complains about the cost becasue his camera equipment is WAY more expensive than my stamps including the underwater photo stuff and all the computer equipment for his digital work. Is this a business for him? No, a hobby. He is even supporting my NEW hobbie of kite surfing! (Also WAY more expensive than stamping) It is good to read how luck I am.
HUbby asked for a HUGE sacrifice..... wwwaaaahhhhaaaaa!
