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hmmmm. That sounds a bit familiar, my DH was mostly figuring that when I started making cards over 3 years ago that 'this too shall pass', 'yet another fad will go by the wayside' . That sort of thing. But when I got better, did more, sold quite a few, provided him with cards for work-the bosses, etc, he began to see that it might be something worthwhile. He does tease me a bit still.
I thought about it in his frame of reference and asked him to think about what he loves, and has to do; hunt, be outdoors, whatever. If he could put himself into the picture in his own ways, it helped him 'get it'. We all have hobbies and things we love to do. If your DH can't picture it for you, can he for himself with golf, sports, whatever?
I wish I could ignore it. I suppose once we go to Disney he'll feel better after getting away from it all for a few days. I wonder if I could sneak a few stamps and cardstock with me in my suitcase ... BWAHAHAHAAA
I don't "get" why my DH does Ironman Triathlon races (as well as shorter races), and he doesn't "get" why I stamp. He does get the need to have "gear", and believe it or not, his gear costs more than mine, LOL! But we do each "get" that the other needs to do their hobby, and we support each other completely. This does not keep him from walking into my craft room, looking around, shaking his head, and wandering off. But that's okay, 'cause his stable of bicycles in the garage baffles me, too!
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I know my DH actually misses me not sitting infront of the TV with him. So now he sits in my stampin room and watches my TV - drives me crazy. Maybe your DH misses you when you aren't with HIM.....Tell him you need your time also...
Kathy
I know my DH actually misses me not sitting infront of the TV with him. So now he sits in my stampin room and watches my TV - drives me crazy. Maybe your DH misses you when you aren't with HIM.....Tell him you need your time also...
Kathy
Right.. and its unfair when I take advantage of my special quiet time when my 2 yr old is napping and the 3 and 4 yr old are playing their star wars game and Dh decides to come home EARLY (he is in sales.. gets flexible schedule) on some days and crash my "party". I am like.. UHHH no.. this is my time darling, i'll see you on the couch 9pm sharp!
But I have to say.. I am blessed that I have a dh that loves me so much and gets jealous over a rubber stamp and cardstock.
My husband is a golfer is the spring and summer and a hunter in the winter. Between his gear and the cost of leases, there is no way I spend more for stamping supplies then he does. This gets me off the hook, but he too would like me to sit infront of the TV with him on Sundays or in the evening. When I do I usually talk too much so he eventually, happily lets me leave the room.;)
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whoever said invite him...no thanks...
i don't go golfing with him, that's his time, his fun time that he has worked hard for and deserves to have...just like stamping is my fun time, that i work hard for and deserve to have just as much as him!!!
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Okay, as a wife whose husband works 12 hour days, you need to appreciate that he's home. Drop that stamp and go spend some time with him. Do it for your stamping sister who wishes she could spend less time alone and more time with her DH.
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I may be way off base, but this idea occurred to me: Maybe quality time is his love language. http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/learn.html
Perhaps, you could communicate to him that the way you feel loved and express love most is "_________" (one of the love languages). Then the two of you could discuss ways for each of you to speak the other's language so you both get what you need from each other. For you - that would be free, quiet, alone time to stamp. You would have to be willing to meet his love needs though.
Again, you may not have been asking for answers this "serious". If that's the case, just ignore me. I'm obviously experiencing my own love language defficiency lately...
My husband was feeling like a stamp-widower, so I started bringing my projects out of my craft room into the living room on a little folding table. Even if he's on the computer, watching tv, or playing Halo3 (ugh), at least we're together.
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Invite him to join you in your artistic endeavor. There are lots of men who stamp and scrap.
that's what got me. Kelly doesn't like cutting and i don't love it it, but i do it to help her. So about a year ago she asked me to help her cut out circles from coldplay and i saw a bear in the circles and made a snow bear card, and got hooked on making cards, and now here we are a year later and my stamping blog is celebrating its anniversary in a couple weeks and I have my own stamp line with Gina K.! talk about getting hooked. if you ask for his help, his help may turn into love of the craft like me! Men like to help their wives even though we may act like we don't *wink* we feel manly when our wives say they need our help. It may not work on your man, but it did on this man!
Okay, as a wife whose husband works 12 hour days, you need to appreciate that he's home. Drop that stamp and go spend some time with him. Do it for your stamping sister who wishes she could spend less time alone and more time with her DH.
read above.. I think my last reply speaks volumes about how fortunate I know I am. And I am not saying I don't spend time with him, but he doesn't "get" my enjoyment... so I thought. Keep reading.
My husband didn't understand my many crafting hobbies until he found a hobby of his own. Now that he has his hobby he doesn't give me a hard time about mine. Now he's happy I have a hobby or three since he's leaving for 2 years. I told him the stamps would keep me busy and happy while he's gone.
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Overall you guys all had some great thoughts.. and not too serious either! ;-)
I think everyone's attempts at helping me were great. I do know my DH has a model airplane that has been sitting in the closet for about 2 months. He did say something about wanting to get that done so I think this might be a great thing for us both to sit together and do our own "crafts". Of course I still will love my one time alone and I will seek that out when I can.
When I asked him what he had against my cardmaking etc.. he said "I think its great, you make beautiful things" and I asked why does he make me feel like my doing it is a problem.. he said he didn't realize he was making me feel badly and he totally understands how I feel.We talked after I got home from work.. after 11:30 PM last night. Then we went to bed and he shared some love languages with me... I didn't know the man spoke FRENCH !!! :oops: :p
I think its gonna be ok from here on out. WOOHOO!!
My DH gave me a hard time at first also until I said stamping to me is like Halo to you, he never said another word. Pick something he loves to do then compare his love for it to your love for stamping.
Right after I got married 6 years ago and moved away from my family and friends, my hubby used to be after me all the time that I need to "find some sort of a hobby". Now it like he resents the time I spend on it! Oh well
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I know my DH actually misses me not sitting infront of the TV with him. So now he sits in my stampin room and watches my TV - drives me crazy. Maybe your DH misses you when you aren't with HIM.....Tell him you need your time also...
Kathy
That's my DH! He will wander through the house looking for me like a lost puppy. All is right in the world if I am next to him on the couch, not talking, not touching, watching whatever oddball show is on TV. Just as long as I am there. I love to spend time with him, but would rather it involved interaction. He has tried stamping and scrapbooking with me, even though he is artistically challenged
I tend to stamp while he is watching something really boring on TV--this way we are in the same room together and he doesn't expect me to pay too much attention to whatever he's watching!
I love what y'all have said on here! I told my husband that I need quiet time and I like to create because it makes me feel like I am really doing something. Not like doing the dishes that need to be done again in 4 hours! He paid attention and told me that my mood changes (for the better) when I've been stamping. Now he prescribes stamping for me when I get grumpy... the other day he said "Do you have PMS? Go to your (stamping) room!" Not the sweetest way to say it, but I got to play with my new DP!!
I love what y'all have said on here! I told my husband that I need quiet time and I like to create because it makes me feel like I am really doing something. Not like doing the dishes that need to be done again in 4 hours! He paid attention and told me that my mood changes (for the better) when I've been stamping. Now he prescribes stamping for me when I get grumpy... the other day he said "Do you have PMS? Go to your (stamping) room!" Not the sweetest way to say it, but I got to play with my new DP!!
Well I hope my DH will send me to my stamp room when I am pms'ing in the future LOL
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I love what y'all have said on here! I told my husband that I need quiet time and I like to create because it makes me feel like I am really doing something. Not like doing the dishes that need to be done again in 4 hours! He paid attention and told me that my mood changes (for the better) when I've been stamping. Now he prescribes stamping for me when I get grumpy... the other day he said "Do you have PMS? Go to your (stamping) room!" Not the sweetest way to say it, but I got to play with my new DP!!
Oh, my dh does something similar to that, too!
Last night when I was in a foul mood from traveling all day from CT to VA, after we got home he said "you need to just go stamp something so you'll feel better" "you've obviously been away from your stamps too long..."
Try explaining that you could be out shopping, drinking with the girls, etc. That helped a friend of mine. Fortunately, my DH hunts, fishes, and watches tons of TV (you know, he can actually see thru his eyelids?? That's how I find him watching TV sometimes....ASLEEP!! And when I turn off the TV, he says "I was watching that" and I say, I'm glad you can see thru your eyelids!)
__________________ Leeci ------------------------------------------------------------------- God sometimes lets life turn you upside down so you can learn to live right side up.
How to explain to DH that you NEED to stamp?
but I think he just worries I put too much time in to it during the day.. which I don't. I actually only get so much free time. I have 3 kids 2,3,4 and a partime job (at it right now) plus my house needs cleaning from time to time 
