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Old 08-19-2011, 03:27 AM   #401
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Yeah, last night was rough. Up since 2 am and have to be at work at 8 am. Today is boring orientation stuff - you know, like sexual harrassement, computer log in, etc.
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JEn, Hang in there...after rereading yours and my posts...Sorry it has been such a long journey and the struggles still continue...Trust me the struggles will be worth it in the end...Hugs!

Morgan called her dad and told him she was sorry for "flipping out" on him the other night and that she is realising the changes in the situation...he called her back and NEVER once mentioned that he got her message....I have always taught my kids to verbally accept an apology and naturally she expected him to tell her he accepted ...never even breathed a word about it...it upset her because she was being the bigger person in this situation...so she is going to ask him if he got the message she left for him (he would not pick his phone up)....poor girl..she is learning and what a tough lesson! Today is Friday and there is lots to get done..the garden is finally ready to harvest...tomatoes are ripening, the corn is all almost done...more hot pepper butter to make and maybe stuffed peppers for supper next week....kids are supposed to go to the x,s and Seth has a scrimmage tomorrow morning...Have a wonderful weekend ladies...Taishea
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Jen, I am glad for you that it is over. You have a new job! I know the financial thing is a disappointment. But, overall I am glad you are now able to move on.
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Taishea, I so ache for Morgan. Such a big thing to have to accept, for such a young girl. I ache for my girls also, I think this is why I so identify what Morgan is going through.
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Thanks so much Karen...this past weekend they spent the ENTIRE weekend with the x....They did pretty well...Morgan announced as she plopped down on the couch..."He did not even try!" She was obviously disappointed!! Seth had his scrimmage and he did well! Today is busy with Dr. appointment and school shopping for the kids....they start a week from today!
Have a great day ladies! Love you all! Taishea!
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Hi ladies, sorry I've haven't posted lately, been buzy with DH, he had shoulder surgery on Thursday. First PT is this afternoon. We also have a hurricane headed our way, so my plate is a bit full.

God Bless Morgan, she is wise beyond her years, I pray that her eyes continue to be open and her heart not be broken by her father. That she will see that just because they are connected by blood does not mean he will be a good father. He step-father loves her and is there for her. I had a step-father like that, he was always there when I needed him and I will always be thankful for that.

Know that all of you are in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs to you all.
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Mary hope your husband is recovering well from the surgery. Will have to watch the weather....is hurricane still heading in your direction?
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Good News!!! As of the noon weather report we aren't even in the error cone of hurricane Irene. That is a load of my mind, was trying to figure out how I was going to get everything done that needed done before it hit.

Hubby is doing well, we went to work today, he lasted a couple of hours. We will try again tomorrow. He is hoping to be driving by Thursday, but I'm not sure he we be able to. Dr wants him to wait 6 weeks, but my DH is thickheaded and stubborn... lol

I'm exhausted, time to try for a nap.

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Hello Ladies!

I haven't been around in quite a while, but see you are still here and doing well. I just wanted to share that my ds turned 18 July 31 and we made it out alive! He is going to community college, which is great for an Aspie and I am doing OK. I would like to get a pt job during Christmas, but my health may not allow it. I am at the library, so I will check back in. Have a great day, and Jen congrats on the new beginning.

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First day with the kiddos. I am beat. LOL
Trying to stay up until 9.
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Katie, so good to hear from you. Congrats to your son on his achivements.

Jen, keeping you in my prayers for strength and energy to make it though each day.

We got the outter bans of the hurricane, wind and rain, a few injuries to crazy people who don't have the sense to stay away from the beach during ruff seas. Looks like it will hit the eastern seaboard sometime in the next day or two. I read in the paper that one of the Red Cross Management staff from our area has been sent to New York to help them with the hurricane. It's hard to evacuate a city as large as NY.

My DH is doing ok, the healing will take a few months. He isn't sleeping very well in the recliner, but couldn't sleep on the bed at all. He has driven to work by himself the past two days, and has done well. We don't have any medical leave where we work, and his job is management so the Dr is allowing him to return to work. Also everyone at work will make sure he doesn't do anything silly. When I was up north for those 5 weeks, they whould ask him if he was having a Mary approved lunch (he is boardline diabetic). I got a kick out of that. LOL
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So glad you visited Katie! Glad for your son!
Mary so thankful your DH is recovering well...perhaps slow, but on the mend,,,
Jen hope you had a fantabulous week!
Karen, you are always a bright spot in my day! always encouraging and uplifting us ladies...

Our school starts on Monday...I am so thankful that the kids needs have all been provided! Morgan has good days and bad days...glad for the good days..they are more often now! I am still not feeling good...all the classic signs yet....going to call the dr on Monday.....and the bummer of it all only lasted about 1.5 days not 7 or so....I will let yous know what is going on!

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Well, Taishea, if you are preggers ( ) you could have some implantation bleeding or spotting. I did with both of my kids.

All is OK here. Guessing we'll lose power tomorrow.

Fri was a good day with the kids. Everyone was saying that the girl I work with and I really connected on Friday. I know it'll be up and down.
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Glad you had a good Friday!..I had the implantation bleeding with all 4 of mine...the catch here is I had a tubal ligation after teh last one almost 12 years ago..We want a baby, only if it happens naturally...so I will still call the Dr. on Monday and see if they can work my in.... I hate to get my hopes up too much..I turned 40 last month and with the tubal ligation 12 years ago..I just worry about all the what ifs......Have a wonderful week everyone!


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Turning my prelim papers in today! Very mixed emotions about it. Found some emails this weekend between him and her... it's rather disgusting (fooling around at work, meeting up in parking lots, stopping at her house on the way home from his second job on Fridays, etc, and the read is like a really bad porn movie, not that I've seen them)... and all the lying to the kids and me.

I'm crying lots but I think it's more for the kids than for me. Gonna have to tell them soon. I can't wait until he finally moves out. I just wanna blow but am keeping it together to not rock the boat before he's served. My aunt tells me I'm almost to the anger stage ... I thought I already experienced it but she says I haven't yet. Yikes, look out!!!
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Mary, Did your husband have Rotatator-Cuff Surgery??? I tore both of mine three years ago. Both were massive tears, so I had my left repaired first. I slept in a recliner for over a month. My daughter had to dress me and take me to PT for a while. I HATE being dependent on people!!! You can't even wear a bra for the first several weeks!!! Anyway, after going through the first surgery, I chose NOT to have my right shoulder fixed. I still have pain in both shoulders from time to time, usually when I work on cards for long periods. I haven't even tried knitting or hand quilting since before my injuries.
Please tell your husband to be very careful. It is VERY easy to pull out the anchor that keeps the stitches in place, which takes four to six months or better. Good Luck to him!!!
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Mary, Did your husband have Rotatator-Cuff Surgery??? I tore both of mine three years ago. Both were massive tears, so I had my left repaired first. I slept in a recliner for over a month. My daughter had to dress me and take me to PT for a while. I HATE being dependent on people!!! You can't even wear a bra for the first several weeks!!! Anyway, after going through the first surgery, I chose NOT to have my right shoulder fixed. I still have pain in both shoulders from time to time, usually when I work on cards for long periods. I haven't even tried knitting or hand quilting since before my injuries.
Please tell your husband to be very careful. It is VERY easy to pull out the anchor that keeps the stitches in place, which takes four to six months or better. Good Luck to him!!!
Yes, that was the surgery he had... he also had a bone spur that they removed. He is doing well, of course I have to wash and dress him, cut his food etc. It drives him crazy to have to ask for help. He got the the stitches out today (lapascopy...sp). He did manage to sleep in the bed the past 2 nights. He is looking at 2 ot 3 months or more of PT... all depends on how he does. He is REALLY careful with that shoulder.
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Turning my prelim papers in today! Very mixed emotions about it. Found some emails this weekend between him and her... it's rather disgusting (fooling around at work, meeting up in parking lots, stopping at her house on the way home from his second job on Fridays, etc, and the read is like a really bad porn movie, not that I've seen them)... and all the lying to the kids and me.

I'm crying lots but I think it's more for the kids than for me. Gonna have to tell them soon. I can't wait until he finally moves out. I just wanna blow but am keeping it together to not rock the boat before he's served. My aunt tells me I'm almost to the anger stage ... I thought I already experienced it but she says I haven't yet. Yikes, look out!!!
It's normal to be sad, it's the death of a dream. I'm sorry you had to find those emails, that makes it harded, but it also confirms things, and you won't accept his lies anymore. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers to stay strong and calm when you have to deal with him or his lawyer. Hold your head high and know you were a good wife.
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It's normal to be sad, it's the death of a dream. I'm sorry you had to find those emails, that makes it harded, but it also confirms things, and you won't accept his lies anymore. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers to stay strong and calm when you have to deal with him or his lawyer. Hold your head high and know you were a good wife.
Yep, I finally realized the marriage was over but was still thinking their connection was still just emotional, that he was enough of a man to wait. But turns out that's not the case.
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Well, I did two things that I had said I would do when I was divorced.

1. I unhid my profile on Match and am going to resign up. I have to call them and it's been busy - they give a discount to my state since there are so few people here. LOL

2. I signed up for a weight loss challenge. It runs from Sept 6th through Dec 7th - 12 weeks. Weekly meetings, support, free session with a trainer. The winner gets $1000 in gift cards. There are 2nd and 3rd places too. I am shooting for first. Some friends are also in the program which is huge for me - I'm a little anxious about this! But the program seems well run - food/diet plan focusing on fresh, unprocessed foods and it's run by an exercise physiologist.
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i called and got an appointment for Friday afternoon...then I will know for sure what is going on with me!
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Boy, the Internet, Facebook, cell phones and texting have really changed the course of so many relationships. I know a lot of relationships would run their course without those things, but it seems technology has changed the face of it big time. I know in my divorce it played a role, in different ways, for both of us.
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1. I unhid my profile on Match and am going to resign up. I have to call them and it's been busy - they give a discount to my state since there are so few people here. LOL

2. I signed up for a weight loss challenge. It runs from Sept 6th through Dec 7th - 12 weeks. Weekly meetings, support, free session with a trainer. The winner gets $1000 in gift cards. There are 2nd and 3rd places too. I am shooting for first. Some friends are also in the program which is huge for me - I'm a little anxious about this! But the program seems well run - food/diet plan focusing on fresh, unprocessed foods and it's run by an exercise physiologist.
Good for you. I know a few couples that met up on match.com. And the challenge, even if you don't win the $$ you still win! Congrats!
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Boy, the Internet, Facebook, cell phones and texting have really changed the course of so many relationships. I know a lot of relationships would run their course without those things, but it seems technology has changed the face of it big time. I know in my divorce it played a role, in different ways, for both of us.
Right... my soon to be ex is a "loner" and would not be in this situation (maybe?) if it weren't for texting and online chatting. Doesn't mean we would still be together but maybe there wouldn't be this other person forcing things into a different direction, kwim?!
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Right... my soon to be ex is a "loner" and would not be in this situation (maybe?) if it weren't for texting and online chatting. Doesn't mean we would still be together but maybe there wouldn't be this other person forcing things into a different direction, kwim?!
I totally know what you mean! You summed it up very well. I am not trying to place blame on technology, either, but it seems almost every story I hear anymore has some part or another where the relationship was affected by technology. Then in what's left, there's a lot of mistrust because of it.

I just think there were times in the "old days" where when you were bored or feeling unwanted/unloved, you might be "forced" to try harder. Now, it seems those outlets allow for things to take a much different direction.

And of course there would still be divorces without it all. My parents divorced in the early 70's, so technology was not an issue there.
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Good for you. I know a few couples that met up on match.com. And the challenge, even if you don't win the $$ you still win! Congrats!
The only thing I would worry about on an online dating site is using it while not having a great self-concept. And I am talking about myself ... not anyone here... LOL! I think by their very nature, online dating sites are a nice option. My fear would be posting an actual (but hopefully FLATTERING) picture and being myself then getting rejected in person. When you meet someone in person and then start dating after that, you don't have that issue because you know they've seen you first. I think if you have a good self-concept, it's not much of an issue.
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The soon-to-be-ex is carpooling again (or still for all I know) - meeting up at a bus parking garage. He's going to get himself fired yet! I would turn him in myself but my kids will need his paycheck!
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I have decided to:
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2)Stop all bad health habits
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Laurie,
He may get himself fired. I hope not for your sake only. He deserves it....but you need for him to be working. Although,

it would be best if one of them left and found another job.

I joined WW yesterday. I still am not entirely sure where I am going wrong. But am going to keep documenting and calculating. Something I am doing is keeping this weight on.

They were very nice. Very non intimidating and made me feel good for starting. I need to lose by Dec when I see my Dr. again, that was my goal....it is already Sept!
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Anyone want an annoying self-centered ex? LOL. OK, we've all got enough of that...

He's such a piece of work. I wonder if the judge will see the obvious. He says he doesn't have ANY money to pay for college, despite a $160K combine income with his new wife and no dependents there. He said he can't afford $3,300 a semester for this year, BUT now he went and hired a HOT SHOT "father's rights" attorney out of downtown Chicago. I mean, wouldn't you just pay the college over a cashy retainer? This is the ONLY issue, too! I am just hoping the judge sees this as vengeful as I do, but i am not holding my breath.
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Really sad this week since I mailed in my prelim paperwork on Monday. I so did not want this divorce but he's certainly not making any effort to get it in motion. Too busy with his w***e, I guess! I can't take his lying and sneaking around anymore. Does he really think I'm that clueless and will just sit around and let things be like this?! And the hardest part is listening to him lecture the kids about "being honest and never lying!" "We may not be happy about the truth, but we'll still love you!" Really?! ...do as I say, not as I do.

He really disgusts me... my aunt tells me I'm getting close to the anger stage, which really makes me sad because I thought I had already been there and was past it! Well next week I should get the first papers to sign and then he should be served shortly after that... stay tuned to see what fireworks transpire.
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Old 09-01-2011, 06:52 PM   #432
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Anyone want an annoying self-centered ex? LOL. OK, we've all got enough of that...

He's such a piece of work. I wonder if the judge will see the obvious. He says he doesn't have ANY money to pay for college, despite a $160K combine income with his new wife and no dependents there. He said he can't afford $3,300 a semester for this year, BUT now he went and hired a HOT SHOT "father's rights" attorney out of downtown Chicago. I mean, wouldn't you just pay the college over a cashy retainer? This is the ONLY issue, too! I am just hoping the judge sees this as vengeful as I do, but i am not holding my breath.
So he has money for a hotshot Chicago attorney, but can not help for college? Mine had money to travel overseas extensively, buy extravagent things for himself and his new "friend" all documented on bank statements, but could not give my DD a dime for college. After looking her in the eye and telling her he would certainly help pay!

Now he tells his family that I am keeping the girls from him. Well he did that one all by himself. I didn't have to even say a word.

I am so sorry for the hurt, anger and disappointment you and your son must feel. It is the one thing in our situation that I can not quite get over and never will. It was so extremely deceiptful.
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Really sad this week since I mailed in my prelim paperwork on Monday. I so did not want this divorce but he's certainly not making any effort to get it in motion. Too busy with his w***e, I guess! I can't take his lying and sneaking around anymore. Does he really think I'm that clueless and will just sit around and let things be like this?! And the hardest part is listening to him lecture the kids about "being honest and never lying!" "We may not be happy about the truth, but we'll still love you!" Really?! ...do as I say, not as I do.

He really disgusts me... my aunt tells me I'm getting close to the anger stage, which really makes me sad because I thought I had already been there and was past it! Well next week I should get the first papers to sign and then he should be served shortly after that... stay tuned to see what fireworks transpire.
Laurie, if you are disgusted I would say you are angry. The feelings are going to overlap for a while. Anger, loss, grieving, frustration, etc...they will rise and fall. You will probably feel some relief once those papers get served. I had a rush when that was done. But, you just feel how you feel, be easy on yourself, one day at a time....
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AAwww...My heart breaks for you ladies..it is single handed the hardest thing ever you will go through....please know that even though I am not posting very much..you are in my thoughts....

I am off to the OB/GYN this afternoon..I am so afraid of what is going on...I can honestly say I am afraid and have cried many tears just because of the unknown....I will fill you all in when I know more...

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Good luck, Taishea, and (hugs)! Hope they can figure it out soon for you...
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So he has money for a hotshot Chicago attorney, but can not help for college? Mine had money to travel overseas extensively, buy extravagent things for himself and his new "friend" all documented on bank statements, but could not give my DD a dime for college. After looking her in the eye and telling her he would certainly help pay!

Now he tells his family that I am keeping the girls from him. Well he did that one all by himself. I didn't have to even say a word.

I am so sorry for the hurt, anger and disappointment you and your son must feel. It is the one thing in our situation that I can not quite get over and never will. It was so extremely deceiptful.
Right. That's my only huge issue at this point. When a kid is a good kid, and hasn't done anything to deserve the hurt, not only do they get it, they get it from their own parent. I don't think you ever can get over that, when you are the person always putting them first, etc. It just doesn't make sense in your own brain.

What I don't get about the claim people make in divorces is, "I don't have any money." Question ... WHY don't you have any money? Was it a genuine bad circumstance, like you got laid off unexpectedly ... or got sick and couldn't work, etc? OR... was it you traveled overseas and throughout the U.S., and/or bought a Porsche, and/or eat out every night, and or have a high-maintenance new wife? I can be as reasonable as the next person, but when I am making sacrifices and cutting corners to pay for my share of college to get my son what he deserves and has earned, then you cry poor? Nope. Come on, his W2 from 2009 had him at $90K. His poor mismanagement of money is NOT my problem. Welcome to the real world! I BETTER not get blasted for having money in a savings. Why do I have money in savings? I cut out travel and have old cars, among other things. But I still find money for savings, to help my kids and even to make donations of cat litter and food to the humane society. It's about priority and sacrifice for the things that are worth it.

I'm just so sick of him .... I've taken to repeating, "Let it go.... let it go .... let it go..." when I get really fed up. I have a borderline anxiety disorder issue, so I have to really watch it. "Let it go" doesn't mean I won't face it head on and be strong, but I can't let it get to me and shake my foundation.... then he DOES win....

Anyway..... hugs to all!

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Well, I live in a father's rights state and the judge bought his poor whoa is me routine and I have no money bit. Oh yeah, and I had to give him another night during the week. My state wants 50/50 custody and all the father has to do is ask and they give him more and more time. I'd have them raid his house for drugs but we too need his paycheck.

So, talking to two guys on match. One seems crazy though, so I'll phase that one out. Just because I ask, "Got any fun plans for the holiday weekend?" doesn't mean I want to hang with you since we just started emailing a day ago!!

The funniest thing that happened is the horrible date from January (different site) emailed me on match and wants to go out on a date. ROFL. He didn't recognize me but I sure as heck recognized his 20 year old photo!
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Well, I live in a father's rights state and the judge bought his poor whoa is me routine and I have no money bit. Oh yeah, and I had to give him another night during the week. My state wants 50/50 custody and all the father has to do is ask and they give him more and more time. I'd have them raid his house for drugs but we too need his paycheck.

So, talking to two guys on match. One seems crazy though, so I'll phase that one out. Just because I ask, "Got any fun plans for the holiday weekend?" doesn't mean I want to hang with you since we just started emailing a day ago!!

The funniest thing that happened is the horrible date from January (different site) emailed me on match and wants to go out on a date. ROFL. He didn't recognize me but I sure as heck recognized his 20 year old photo!
I've never heard the term "father's rights state" ... what does that mean? For me, it's not about anyone's rights... it's about DOING the right thing, and that means the legal system, too. That whole term "father's rights" just REALLY bugs me.

Does your ex really have no money, or does he spend it all then has none? Some of these guys I read about on here should be GLAD I am not a judge!

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I have never heard of father's rights state either. I didn't realize there where states that lean in the Dad's favor? That is not fair at all.
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*sigh* He took the kids to his parents this weekend, well overnight, so I'm sure he can be back to spend time with her on Monday. I took the kids to the racetrack that he announces at on Fridays and probably foiled his plans to stop at her place on the way home for a quick screw... I feel so bad about, NOT! So today when they were leaving, I pulled him aside and said "so I trust she won't be anywhere in Winona County, right?" His response was jfc, the kids are with! And my response was it wouldn't be the first time you left the kids to be with her, right?! He thinks I don't know about the s*e*x and the carpooling and the sneaking off to "work" on the weekends... well I do know and I'm not taking it any more, which was why I turned in the papers this week. I really didn't want to be the one to file but it's clear he's not going to and is perfectly happy with this nightmare of a living arrangement. Well I'm not and it's stopping now. I just need to keep my mouth shut and not react, I want to keep what I know under wraps in case it's needed later!
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