04-15-2005, 07:44 AM
Join Date: Feb 2004
Prayers and advice to give my friend!
Okay guys I have a friend,who wouldn't visit this site but I won't mention her name just in case, She is married to a man in the Air Force, as am I, who goes TDY (temporary duty assignment) alot. Usually taking classes and what not. Well she emailed me today and told me of all these incidents of him meeting up with other women.
The first incident was He had a class in Vegas and when he left for vegas he left his email open with conversation with this girl (ex-girlfriend) about how he didn't know if he could control himself with her. He was gone for 2 weeks, and my friend didn't hear from him and he lied and told her if she called him in the hotel, it hotel would charge him, and for some reason she let him get away with it. He also told her that the email was a joke.
The next was an incident in Barksdale, LA that he went to a club, hanging out with a girl all night, and never went back to his room. The next day she called and he wasn't there, and claimed he passed out in a friends room, but wouldn't tell her who the friend was.
The third incident was in FL where he meet up with a girl and she drove him everywhere took him out for 2 weeks, when he went home she called him and my friend answered the phone and this girl was surprised to find out that my friend was his wife, when my friend asked if they had been intimate this girl said you need to ask your husband and let him know I need to talk to him. When she asked her husband he denied it all.
Now he is in Japan and been there for 4 months (comes back in May). He called her at 4 in the morning talking about this woman he met that makes him feel good and she's pretty and she reminds him of her. She has been avoiding his phone calls.
She has had numersous surgeries to try and have a baby, and was not at any of her surgeries, and she feels no support from him.
I feel so sorry for my friend, because every man she chooses to be with is very mean to her and cheats on her, I don't know why she cooses these men. Then when she has the proof in front of her she still stays with them. I don't want to be mean about it, but whats it gonna take?
She has only been married to this guy for 2 years, and after they got married he told her he couldn't be with one woman for to long, because he gets bored. She says when they have sex she feels like a hooker. I don't understand her. I really don't. I want to give her good advice, but she doesn't take it. I had brought her to the Lord 3 years ago, and she wants to go to church, and husband won't, but for some reason won't go by her self. I told her her salvation is hers, not hers and her husbands. Sorry this is so long but please someone give me advice how to talk with out being mean but being honest. I have been friends with her for 13 years now, I would hate to ruin it now.
Last edited by mindy; 04-15-2005 at 07:49 AM..