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Old 09-14-2013, 02:39 PM   #121
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Ah Rainsong. No matter how much intellectually you prepare, nothing will stop the sadness in your heart. It sounds as if you have had a grand life and love story with Butch.
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Rainsong, I am thinking of you and your dear hubby.
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Butch has not been truly awake since Saturday evening. His respiratory rate is very fast and at times, labored. He is now on a low dose of morphine every two hours to slow the respiration rate so he doesn't go into panic mode.

Since Friday, he's lost a huge amount of weight, another indication death is near. There are other signs which I won't go into but I don't think he has more than a couple days left.

Each of us in the family have taken the time to let him know how much we love him and that we will be okay.

Today, even the hospice CNAs were telling him they loved him. I called his friend, Joe, this evening to let him know how much Butch has declined since he saw him last week and he's planning on visiting tomorrow. Joe told me the first time he met Butch he knew he was someone special.

I wish I could convey to all of you just how special my husband is. There wasn't a thing around the house he wouldn't do--except dust.

Changed diapers
Replaced windows
Gave the kids their baths on occasion
Rewired the house
Baked cookies
Installed vinyl siding and insulated the entire house
Fixed Christmas dinner the year I broke my ankle
Fixed our cars and our appliances
Braided the girls' hair
Took care of the yard
Helped me shower when I broke my ankle and did everything when I broke my wrist
Vacuumed, changed sheets, did laundry, built beautiful furniture, scooped poop, took the kids fishing and canoeing, refinished floors and wood moldings, attended every school event our kids were in (except football stuff--they were in band) installed kitchens in every house we've lived in, repaired more things than I can list, took the dog and cats for long hikes (and the neighbor's goat, but that's another story)

and cherished his wife and children beyond belief.

September 27th is our wedding anniversary--35 years.

Saturday, the last day he was able to convey anything to me, I put my head on his chest and wrapped my arm around his shoulders. He put his good arm around my back and gave me a loving pat. Then--as he has done since our dating days, he picked up my hand and kissed it one last time.

I have no idea how I can live without him.

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My heart cries with you. I'm sure this is more than hard and devastating. I became a widow at 38 and it was overwhelming to say the least. Try to remember all the good times and let those memories carry you through. Peace....
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I feel so honored to witness here your love for one another. That will always be with you. Try to remember to take care of yourself during this time. ((((hugs))))
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My darling husband left this world at 12:55 A.M. this morning.

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Oh my dear Rainsong, I'm so sorry to hear this.
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Oh , dearest Rainsong, I am so sorry to hear this.
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Rainsong, what a terrible, terrible loss. Your love for Butch--and his for you--has always shone in every word you've ever said or written about him. I know he must have felt that love as profoundly as you did in every minute you spent together. My heart is with you, and you and your family are in my prayers and thoughts. I am so, so sorry.
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Rainsong I too am so sorry for you and your family. Sending ((hugs)) and loving thoughts to all of you.
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Rainsong, I don't have words except I am so sorry to hear this news. Sending loving thoughts to you and your family.
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Thank you for letting us know and for sharing your love story with us. Butch will be missed. Keep in touch. I don't just say that. I mean it. Keep writing. You will be able to keep going. An hour at a time, one day after another. Little by little. Butch would want you to do that. We're here. (((hugs)))
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Rainsong, I am so very sorry to hear this. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and on my heart. Warmest hugs, C
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I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you are going through, but we are thinking of you. Thank you for sharing this story. It sounds like you have an amazing lifetime of memories together.
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Great picture, Rainsong. Thanks.
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Thanks for sharing the picture of Butch. Is the girl your daughter?
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Thank you for the picture of Butch, Rainsong. Everything you said about him comes through in his twinkly eyes and that smile.
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Awww, he looks so sweet and handsome!!
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That is so good to post such a sweet picture of him. Now we all can put a face with the story. I wish peace and blessings for you.
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In my thoughts and prayers Rainsong. Thank you for sharing your love story and the picture of your Darling Husband. Hugs!
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Rainsong, I am at a loss for words. But you are strong and will make it through. You will have the memories of your grand love for him to warm you forever.
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Expressed elsewhere, but R, I'm so sorry for your loss...

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Sharing your sadness at the loss of your cherished husband, partner and friend. I am so, so sorry....Jeanne
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Rainsong...I'm sorry to hear about your husband. I can see the love in your home and may this carry you through in the future.
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Rainsong, Bugga has it just right: everything you've said truly does come though in his eyes and smile.
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I'm sorry to hear of your loss. As others have said, what a great smile! Hold onto tose memories!
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Rainsong, I am so very sad to hear of the loss of your beloved husband Butch, my thoughts are with you and your family.
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Rainsong, I know it has been ages since you and I have spoken, but I wanted to send my deepest condolences to you on the loss of your precious husband; I know how special he was to you. My heart and thoughts are with you. xoxo
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Just stopping in to say, I hope you are getting through these days as well as you possibly can, and I hope you know we are all thinking about you and your family.

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You are in my thoughts and prayers. Let us know how you're doing as you are able.

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Rainsong, let us know how you are doing, if you get a chance.

I know that after the funeral and having all the people around, when life resumes its normal patterns it can seem like the support is gone. Let us know how you are. I think of you often.
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