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It's Senior Night.

Must not get *too* emotional... I think I need to try to focus on watching the band perform, and trying to spot anything they add for fun. Then when the seniors take off their shoes I can lose it. *sniffly smile*
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Sure has been quiet here. I got to the gallery a good bit this week, though!

I got all my Halloween cards mailed. Not that many - except this year I sent one for each of the kids, that's six right there. (Not counting my brother's new granddaughter; I don't really send cards to that side of the family much.)
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The Sharks lost last night for the first time in regulation. They'd had one loss in a shootout. Last night was tied 1-1 until there was exactly 0.8 seconds left on the clock. Then it was no longer tied and we lost, 2-1.

Oh well. Three weeks into the season, not bad. And it was IN Boston. Boston went to the Stanley Cup finals last year. Not a bad team. We outshot them, though! Crazy.
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I got two bags of Halloween candy like a month ago at Target on sale and a $5 gift card. They are still unopened. I will have to sort the candy before Halloween, so we first give away the stuff we care about the least... so if there are leftovers, we can eat them. I think we can do that without stuffing ourselves in one day. As long as I don't leave it OUT, I can do okay with most goodies in the house. In the cupboard or in my island, behind a door, in a bag, is the best. Still accessible but you have to think about it. Mindless eating can be a killer.
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I'm about 15 over goal and have been for months now. I have been relieved to see that I can keep it there. And I know I need to "move more" to lose. Sigh. I could lose some by being really strict with my eating. But the moving has to get moving....
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Babble babble, told an old friend on FB that he was full of ..it.

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Missing Marge and MO too.

DH got home and went up to nap. Poor guy. Still with the shoulder issues.
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Saturday, nothing planned so I better spend time in my courtyard cutting stuff back for the winter.

Sunday, going to a huge accessories show (discounted prices) up in Rosemont.
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Ooh we've got a smallish stamping convention next month, the Sat. before Thanksgiving that I think we'll all get to. It's a fun day out.
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I've been moving some stuff out of the upstairs hall cupboard - pulled some towels to give to the shelter, once the kids stuff is all gone.... it may be awhile. DS's will be awhile but there isn't that much. DD's should be gone in months, I've shipped a few boxes of stuff and she may need more cold weather clothes so I'll be getting another box (or two) out next week, I guess. But she wants some furniture things so either we drive and pull a trailer, or get a small truck and fill it (that's way expensive), or get a pod, not cheap either and I think overkill.... I dunno. I preferred her original plan which was to come out here for a little while before settling there. lol She could have packed it up. I wouldn't mind shipping but there's a certain amount of "going thru" and packing that she never did and it's stupid to pay to ship stuff she doesn't want.

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I've been moving some stuff out of the upstairs hall cupboard - pulled some towels to give to the shelter, once the kids stuff is all gone.... it may be awhile. DS's will be awhile but there isn't that much. DD's should be gone in months, I've shipped a few boxes of stuff and she may need more cold weather clothes so I'll be getting another box (or two) out next week, I guess. But she wants some furniture things so either we drive and pull a trailer, or get a small truck and fill it (that's way expensive), or get a pod, not cheap either and I think overkill.... I dunno. I preferred her original plan which was to come out here for a little while before settling there. lol She could have packed it up. I wouldn't mind shipping but there's a certain amount of "going thru" and packing that she never did and it's stupid to pay to ship stuff she doesn't want.

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Honestly it seems to me that by the time you pay moving charges on furniture, it might be cheaper for her just to go to IKEA and buy a few things locally.


On the sorting through....Maybe you could lay things out on a table or floor, take photos, and ask her which she wants.
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Or do the opposite. Ask her to identify by name what she wants. If she can't remember that she has it, she doesn't need it.
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Today at work was "bring your kids for Halloween" from 3-5pm. Then they go around from desk to desk and get TONS of candy on each floor. Fun to see the kids of co-workers. I'll see if I can upload a picture of my immediate department (boss took the day off).
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As you can see I'm the grandma of the group, LOL

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Must not get *too* emotional... I think I need to try to focus on watching the band perform, and trying to spot anything they add for fun. Then when the seniors take off their shoes I can lose it. *sniffly smile*
Awwwww...

Um... why do the seniors take off their shoes?
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Um... why do the seniors take off their shoes?
Wondering the same thing. It is sweet how sentimental PH gets about these milestones
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DH got home and went up to nap. Poor guy. Still with the shoulder issues.
Oh. That much pain is no fun.

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Another crazy week. Work's been nuts as usual. One of the folks on my team got another job (fortunately not anyone I adore) so that will add to the load until person's replaced. Molly's slowly gotten back to normal after the bad seizures the middle of last weekend. Can't remember if I told you all about that or not. The vet now thinks it's definitely a tumor. Had a friend in town for a couple of weeks so various groups of people got together with him, that part was fun just that between work, Molly, getting ready for next stamping class tomorrow and various social stuff going on I'm tuckered out. Sunday I'm probably heading to Spartanburg to meet a friend from college who will be there for the weekend--his son's taking a flying class there.

I missed the stamping retreat last weekend but I'm SO glad to have had the time with Molly. I would not have been able to concentrate on anything if I'd been away from her. She seems back to 100% finally but I wouldn't have said that until yesterday, which was 8 days after everything started. I'm trying to practice constructive denial: at this point I know it's inevitable that we'll have more rough days ahead, but I don't want to lose any of the good days to worrying. When the bad days hit, I'll do whatever I need to do, and in the meantime, I just want to enjoy every good day that we have, for as long as we keep having them. She's really been a tough little dog through all of this, and she deserves as much joy and love as I can possibly give her.
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Sunday, going to a huge accessories show (discounted prices) up in Rosemont.
Is that the show where you got the gorgeous scarf and cool jewelry last year?

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I've been moving some stuff out of the upstairs hall cupboard - pulled some towels to give to the shelter, once the kids stuff is all gone.... it may be awhile. DS's will be awhile but there isn't that much. DD's should be gone in months, I've shipped a few boxes of stuff and she may need more cold weather clothes so I'll be getting another box (or two) out next week, I guess. But she wants some furniture things so either we drive and pull a trailer, or get a small truck and fill it (that's way expensive), or get a pod, not cheap either and I think overkill.... I dunno. I preferred her original plan which was to come out here for a little while before settling there. lol She could have packed it up. I wouldn't mind shipping but there's a certain amount of "going thru" and packing that she never did and it's stupid to pay to ship stuff she doesn't want.

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If it were me, I'd give her a couple of choices, but still make sure that the choices each involve her shouldering part of the effort/expense/ inconvenience. Kind of a split-the-difference approach. Maybe ask her to research the expenses for the move, and say we'll give you X% of it, we'll load the truck when you send us a check for the remainder. Or we'll give you a check for whatever X% would be, and you can use it to buy furniture there.

I just don't recommend my parents' approach, which was not ever to give us the choice to come and sort through our stuff, but instead just to throw it all out and then tell us they'd pitched it, except for my sister's stuff, which, of course, was lovingly preserved because they knew she might want it some day.... (fortunately I'm not still... BITTER).

I'd kind of use the broken record plea for empathy approach in the face of any objections: 'yes, of course that would be difficult for you, but what makes you think we look forward to taking on that work/expense/inconvenience any more than you do?' That's kind of how I handled it when certain former spouse would whine that he worked hard all day and did not think he should have to vacuum or lift a finger around the house. I'd ask him, 'what makes you think I drive 45 min across town every day thinking, gosh, I just can't WAIT to get home and scrub the bathrooms!' and repeat as needed.

Apologies if I sound slightly crabby. I have to admit that situation with my family has made me a great proponent of finding equitable solutions and meeting folks halfway whenever possible. And probably sometimes a cranky proponent.
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Honestly it seems to me that by the time you pay moving charges on furniture, it might be cheaper for her just to go to IKEA and buy a few things locally.

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I've shipped a few boxes of stuff and she may need more cold weather clothes so I'll be getting another box (or two) out next week, I guess. But she wants some furniture things so either we drive and pull a trailer, or get a small truck and fill it (that's way expensive), or get a pod, not cheap either and I think overkill....
If it's stuff she's going to want there and keep forever (furniture she loves, etc.) there's a third option: contact a regular mover (Mayflower-type) and they'll pack her small amount of stuff in with a large load they have going there. My mom sent out five pieces of furniture (2 small, 2 large, and 1 piano!) plus about a dozen boxes for less than $1000, so depending on how much she has it should be a little cheaper than a pod.

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This is our new open work environment that is supposed to increase collaboration.
I love your costumes!!! That's fun!

I also like that it looks as though you have at least a little privacy in your cubes. We have NO walls at all. I've gotten used to it, just hate having nowhere to hang my Alaska calendar.
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DINGDINGDINGDINGDING.

Wait... are those walls behind the monitors? Do you all have more than one monitor in your cube? Or are all your desks jammed together.

If they're all jammed together you have my sympathy.

Collaboration = cool and good but same goes for a bit of privacy and quiet when you're heads down.
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Molly's a trooper. She's SO tough. The seizures last week were awful and she was terrified, but got herself up and followed me everywhere, even when she was very off balance and wobbly.

It took her about 6 days to get all the way back to normal--vet wasn't sure if she would come all the way back. For now, though, she's absolutely and very happily herself. I just feel profoundly grateful for every moment that things stay that way. Thank you Marge. Warm thoughts for her mean a lot.

How is Shadow doing? I half expect to see him sitting on my front lawn sometimes with you, when I get home!
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I'm off to shower--will check in tomorrow after class. I have a bit of catching up to do. That should make V happy!
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Honestly it seems to me that by the time you pay moving charges on furniture, it might be cheaper for her just to go to IKEA and buy a few things locally.


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Yeah that's what DH said. But her electric piano would be over $500 to replace. And she has a lot of framed posters and collectibles that she might as well get moved there - nothing high value, but to her. Disney stuff, pictures of Wicked people etc. Stuff like that.
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Jane - glad to hear Molly is feeling better. You could always board her at the vet clinic when you need to go away, just in case...

PH - I want to know about the shoes, too!


Marge - your colleagues look like fun


Kathy - I'm enjoying hearing about your daughter's transition to life outside Disney. Has she found a job out there?
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Yeah we kind of went through this when she decided, while we were on the trip, that she didn't really want to come back to CA after all. One suggestion was that we could spend an hour a day on face time looking at her stuff. I told her that didn't turn me on at all.


I simply don't WANT to have to go through all this crap. I don't mind finding something specific she wants but wow.
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If it's stuff she's going to want there and keep forever (furniture she loves, etc.) there's a third option: contact a regular mover (Mayflower-type) and they'll pack her small amount of stuff in with a large load they have going there. My mom sent out five pieces of furniture (2 small, 2 large, and 1 piano!) plus about a dozen boxes for less than $1000, so depending on how much she has it should be a little cheaper than a pod.

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Yeah I don't personally trust sticking it on the end of a load. Stuff gets lost that way. I would do it for simple furniture but really other than the piano, no other large furniture items need to go. There are a couple of shelves she'd like to get but again if that was all, I'd say buy them there.


But there are buckets of clothes, stuff, more stuff, more stuff..... she had a lot of stuff.
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Or do the opposite. Ask her to identify by name what she wants. If she can't remember that she has it, she doesn't need it.
heh heh. She remembers enough of the big stuff. I've already stolen a few things. Desk items, like scissors etc. Some washi tape.... she has gowns and outfits and costumes.... and shoes and her Lego Space Shuttle.....
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Oh. That much pain is no fun.

And... um, lurker alert!!!!

Another crazy week. Work's been nuts as usual. One of the folks on my team got another job (fortunately not anyone I adore) so that will add to the load until person's replaced. Molly's slowly gotten back to normal after the bad seizures the middle of last weekend. Can't remember if I told you all about that or not. The vet now thinks it's definitely a tumor. Had a friend in town for a couple of weeks so various groups of people got together with him, that part was fun just that between work, Molly, getting ready for next stamping class tomorrow and various social stuff going on I'm tuckered out. Sunday I'm probably heading to Spartanburg to meet a friend from college who will be there for the weekend--his son's taking a flying class there.

I missed the stamping retreat last weekend but I'm SO glad to have had the time with Molly. I would not have been able to concentrate on anything if I'd been away from her. She seems back to 100% finally but I wouldn't have said that until yesterday, which was 8 days after everything started. I'm trying to practice constructive denial: at this point I know it's inevitable that we'll have more rough days ahead, but I don't want to lose any of the good days to worrying. When the bad days hit, I'll do whatever I need to do, and in the meantime, I just want to enjoy every good day that we have, for as long as we keep having them. She's really been a tough little dog through all of this, and she deserves as much joy and love as I can possibly give her.
I don't think I knew that vet said it must be a tumor.
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As you can see I'm the grandma of the group, LOL

This is our new open work environment that is supposed to increase collaboration.
Nice picture, Marge!


Open is great for collaboration, not so great for the introvert who works best alone and without interruption, it's tough on them if they never get that....
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Alyson, she started last week working at Home Depot, part time at first (of course), hoping she gets picked up full time. She's doing Merchandise Execution, setting stuff up, etc. She likes that, did it at Target a few years ago. Down side is early hours for that job. lol
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Both kids are transitioning to high school (DS) and middle school (DD) really well. DS has had some issues with writing (related to the Asperger's) but we've dealt with it and the teachers' are all being good about using the modifications in the IEP when needed. he's doing really well in Algebra, which I expected. And his English teacher wants to put him into pre-AP English next year (because, she said, "he's so smart!") if we can all figure out how to help him get through the writing part... DS has been in band this fall but has elected to not march so he's not bonding very much with the rest of them (they march T/R 5-7pm and some Sat, plus play at all the home games), though there are seven other kids also not marching. He's at the last home game of the year tonight.


I bet DD will march, though - she's much more band-oriented. She volunteered to play bass drum in 6th grade because no one else would do it, and her band teacher was really glad because she has excellent rhythm. She's first chair (with two others in her grade) - they combine with 7th and 8th for concerts and spring marching band, so she's one of six or so in the "big" band. That said, she really doesn't like it because she's tiny and the bass drum is huge!


She wants to learn keyed percussion, so she started lessons on the glockenspiel (thankfully not the lyre type I had to play - she gets one with a horizontal frame). She's doing really well and picking it up quickly - her teacher made her first chair in bells, too (the only one, LOL). She has a solo in one of the winter concert pieces. She's thrilled. She also is proud to be the only one who is first chair in two instruments


We're doing two afternoons a week of 4H again this year. Both kids are working with alpacas this year, which is a lot easier for me compared to the last couple years when DD worked w/alpacas and DS worked w/goats.


Add in an art class, plus both group and individual percussion lessons for DD, and a French horn private lesson plus video game club for DS, and you can see all I do is drive them here and there. At least they're both on the same school schedule now!


We still have to add in Destination Imagination - I'm thinking we won't have a free afternoon until next spring!


Nothing new with me. Trying to make myself get fitter so I can keep up with everyone on the Paris trip next June. Procrastinating on applying as a sub. Procrastinating on cleaning and organizing the house. On the plus side, I found an apartment for us to rent in Paris and have lists of places to visit (that's what I did while I was procrastinating on everything else, LOL - looked at about a hundred short stay apartments and even more activities/museums/restaurants/etc.).


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Yeah I don't personally trust sticking it on the end of a load. Stuff gets lost that way. I would do it for simple furniture but really other than the piano, no other large furniture items need to go. There are a couple of shelves she'd like to get but again if that was all, I'd say buy them there.

But there are buckets of clothes, stuff, more stuff, more stuff..... she had a lot of stuff.
Sounds like she should just come and sort it out when/if she comes at Thanksgiving or Christmas. Other than more cold weather clothes, it doesn't sound particularly essential, does it?

(Pre-Ikea) I just used concrete blocks and boards for shelves until I married DH... And you can get a cheap electronic piano, good enough for picking out new tunes, at Goodwill for ~$25. I assume she's planning on auditioning for stuff?

Re: the big trucks, they showed me how they kept things separated - they put each load together, boxes and small furniture on pallets, and wrapped the whole load with plastic. Big waste of plastic, but it seemed pretty secure, and we definitely got everything Mom sent. We did have to wait a couple weeks until they filled the truck.
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Yeah she has a lot of stuff for actually recording and singing, and the piano is a good piece of furniture. I remember having cinderblock shelves too. The house where she is living had a full slate of furniture. Beds need replacing, she hasn't done anything so far but get rid of some. We'll fund some replacements before we visit again. lol The one shelf she asked about, she said she can't find one like it now. lol We'll see.

She doesn't plan to come out - for the holidays or anything! She hates to fly and flying with the dog is pretty impossible these days..... I dunno. It's a tough situation. She needs to be patient, basically. I'll revisit the truck vs. Uhaul vs. pods again once I'm whittled things down some.
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I got two bags of Halloween candy like a month ago at Target on sale and a $5 gift card. They are still unopened. I will have to sort the candy before Halloween, so we first give away the stuff we care about the least... so if there are leftovers, we can eat them. I think we can do that without stuffing ourselves in one day. As long as I don't leave it OUT, I can do okay with most goodies in the house. In the cupboard or in my island, behind a door, in a bag, is the best. Still accessible but you have to think about it. Mindless eating can be a killer.
We do that type of sorting, too. But we also eliminate some of it by mainly buying stuff that we'll eat if it doesn't get passed out to the kids.

This year ODS is planning that his girlfriend will come over and the two of them will pass out candy to the trick-or-treaters. (I have a strong suspicion it was her idea because her younger sister is planning to go around the neighborhood with a girl who lives here.) I think that's a cute idea for something the two of them can do together, but I will miss seeing all the kids in costume!
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