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Amber, I'm lucky that my family (well, at least my husband and mom - we haven't discussed it with the kids much yet) agree with my choices after death. We all (including my dad) agreed that donation of any useful bits followed by cremation and sprinkling somewhere we enjoyed in life was preferable. We sprinkled my dad in the water in front of the house where he spent 62 years swimming and waterskiing and crabbing and smelting (catching smelt, not metal-working); mom kept a bit and went out in an outrigger canoe in front of their Maui condo, too. She also transformed an old gaudy (but real diamond/platinum) ring into a lovely necklace which encases a bit of Dad so he can 'go with her' on her travels - that was her need. I do understand why some people need different things when they're grieving. I think it's good that you're talking about it with your kids and both of you are open to what the kids may want.
__________________ “The good thing about science is that it’s true whether or not you believe in it.” --- Neil deGrasse Tyson
I think he assumed I would know the time was coming or if something were to happen to DH or one of the kids. I've never been known to change my mind, so not sure where get got that idea. He treated my brothers and I as if we just couldn't possibly understand the way he felt when losing mom. It was offensive and out of line, but we all just let it go bc if it helped him to deal with his pain, who were we to squash that? Of everyone in the family, he knew her the least, IMO. I knew her the best, IMO.
He has since recreated memories and made them much more pleasant than they ever were and has no recollection of all of the horrible things he did. Truly.
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When dh was diagnosed, we had our wills drawn up and specified we wanted cremated.
I've always hated what my m-i-l did after f-i-l died. He had put in his will that he wanted his body to go to science, but she buried him instead. To me, that was a huge sign of disrespect.
Rainsong
I agree, that is incredibly disrespectful.
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You guys are always listing what you do during the day, so I think I'll post my "today."
Showered then left for the grocery store.
Came home, put stuff away then started dinner in the crockpot--beef for French dip sandwiches, a request from hubby.
Took dh for neurologist appt. Spent over an hour waiting for appointment and fifteen minutes with the doctor. All told, round trip, waiting and actual appointment, 2 hours.
Came home, fed the cats, washed the dishes and started the BBQ sauce for tomorrow's visit with dh's sister.
While BBQ sauce was simmering, I grated cabbage for slaw.
Played with new Acrylic Silks I got in the mail. (They're GOR-JUS!)
Had dinner.
Cleaned up and did dishes again.
Watched NCIS and Survivor.
Put BBQ on to get it started for tomorrow.
Baked cake.
And now I'm off to do the dishes--again.
Tomorrow I'll dust and whip up the dressing for the slaw and ice the cake. Dh gets to vacuum since he likes it so much.
Rainsong
Busy day!
I take a lot of pride in my time management and multi tasking skills. I used to think everyone could accomplish anything if they just stopped being lazy brats, but I've since realized that some people just don't even think to do another task while they wait for the water to boil.
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I keep telling DH that I am going to keep a running chart with times on it so he can see just what I do all day and why the house completely falls apart in the two hours he is with the children. *sigh*
I can leave clean happy children in a spotless house. I go to a two hour ballgame and it looks like the house vomitted clothes, toys and dirty dishes. He is completely exhausted and acts like he could barely get the kids in bed, let alone get anything else done. Then, I have to spend about an our packing lunches, cleaning the kitchen and cleaning the living room. I have yet to figure out how he does it.
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The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing. ~Albert Einstein
I keep telling DH that I am going to keep a running chart with times on it so he can see just what I do all day and why the house completely falls apart in the two hours he is with the children. *sigh*
I can leave clean happy children in a spotless house. I go to a two hour ballgame and it looks like the house vomitted clothes, toys and dirty dishes. He is completely exhausted and acts like he could barely get the kids in bed, let alone get anything else done. Then, I have to spend about an our packing lunches, cleaning the kitchen and cleaning the living room. I have yet to figure out how he does it.
Been there, done that--finally figured out a clean house isn't all that important in relation to time spent with daddy or mommy.
Rainsong
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I don't think he even spends any real quality time with them. He acts like feeding them and putting on pj's is a daunting task that takes all night. LOL! Men!
When I was gone on Black Friday, I thought he would spend the day on the floor playing with the kids. He said it was all he could do to feed them breakfast(canned refridgerated cinnamon rolls), get them dressed(baby was still in a sleeper when I came in.) feed them lunch(cheese sandwich with applesauce) and put the girls down for a nap.
He kills me!
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HI!
RS I'm so glad you still watch Survivor. Some reason I thought you abandoned that a few seasons ago.
Alyson I'm glad you clarified smelting because I was wondering there for a sec.
BB men are dorks.I know DH plays with them at night and tha'ts fine, I don't expect to come home to a cleaned up place necessarily but some nights he doesnt' even put the trash from the table to the can that is about 2 feet from the table.
I have been supremely lazy today.
Took Zach to school and came home and snuggled in bed to watch Top CHef. Jacob hung out a bit then watched tv out on the couch then hung out some more and we played Angry Birds Star Wars. Then I took a bath because I was freezing. I'm still barely warm enough. I must be overtired today.
After the bath I figured we'd better get dinner food and maybe let J pick out a gift for Z so we went to Target. I ended up getting frozen meatballs wich are in a crock pot with marinara, garlic cloves, dash of balsamic and dried onions, hoagie rolls, sliced mozarella, and a frozen oreo pie for dessert. If I had em I'd use paper plates today too lol
I have been supremely lazy today.
Took Zach to school and came home and snuggled in bed to watch Top CHef. Jacob hung out a bit then watched tv out on the couch then hung out some more and we played Angry Birds Star Wars. Then I took a bath because I was freezing. I'm still barely warm enough. I must be overtired today.
After the bath I figured we'd better get dinner food and maybe let J pick out a gift for Z so we went to Target. I ended up getting frozen meatballs wich are in a crock pot with marinara, garlic cloves, dash of balsamic and dried onions, hoagie rolls, sliced mozarella, and a frozen oreo pie for dessert. If I had em I'd use paper plates today too lol
I can't imagine that crock pot combo, but to each her own.
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The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing. ~Albert Einstein
HI!
RS I'm so glad you still watch Survivor. Some reason I thought you abandoned that a few seasons ago.
Alyson I'm glad you clarified smelting because I was wondering there for a sec.
BB men are dorks.I know DH plays with them at night and tha'ts fine, I don't expect to come home to a cleaned up place necessarily but some nights he doesnt' even put the trash from the table to the can that is about 2 feet from the table.
Right? LIke dirty tissues laying on the counter above the garbage can? Who does that? Diapers...hello, trash can! Dirty underwear from where the kids change clothes...hamper!
Most nights I come in at 830 and he is in the chair asleep as if he has just run a marathon in the two hours I was gone. I usually have dinner ready before I leave. He's just a spoiled brat!
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He has since recreated memories and made them much more pleasant than they ever were and has no recollection of all of the horrible things he did. Truly.
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Right? LIke dirty tissues laying on the counter above the garbage can? Who does that? Diapers...hello, trash can! Dirty underwear from where the kids change clothes...hamper!
Most nights I come in at 830 and he is in the chair asleep as if he has just run a marathon in the two hours I was gone. I usually have dinner ready before I leave. He's just a spoiled brat!
2013 Scrapping Goal 48 pages
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Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid. - Albert Einstein
2013 Scrapping Goal 48 pages
To date 10 completed!
Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid. - Albert Einstein
Mine puts his dishes in the sink, not the dishwasher but better than nothing. Dirty laundry either goes next to or, even worse, on top of the laundry basket.
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I used to go off to arts and crafts shows on fairly frequent Saturdays during the season, with a friend. We'd go around 9 a.m., spend a few hours, have lunch and go home. Frequently DH would take the kids to a park.
But then again, HE was the one who wanted kids, not me. So he knew better than to pretend he didn't know what to do. lol
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Productive day. As well as cleaning, cooking and laundry I wrote some long letters to go in with Christmas cards and wrote probably 30 cards, too. Too warm to feel Christmassy though, still 78 today.
DH always puts his dishes in the d/w, so does DS. DD not so much.
It amazes me how the kids can sometimes be oblivious as to how things are done in the house even though they see DH and I do them all the time. They are good about clearing the table and loading and unloading the dishwasher though. They take a leaf out of DHs book with laundry though.
I used to go off to arts and crafts shows on fairly frequent Saturdays during the season, with a friend. We'd go around 9 a.m., spend a few hours, have lunch and go home.
I'm looking forward to finding things like this when we're on the road.
DS is going on a field trip in a couple of weeks to a place in Phoenix called Biztown. They've tons of work to prepare and if DH wasn't out of town I'd go as a chaperone.They interviewed for jobs last week and DS1 got Bank VP job which he wanted. DS leaves school at 6.30 to get there for 9am.... chaperones have to drive up and need to be there at 7.30 so I'd have had to leave here at 5.30........ just wouldn't work.
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It amazes me how the kids can sometimes be oblivious as to how things are done in the house even though they see DH and I do them all the time. They are good about clearing the table and loading and unloading the dishwasher though. They take a leaf out of DHs book with laundry though.
Yeah when I was gone back east for my dad's funeral, DD put signs on the sinks for everyone else. ha ha ha What not to leave in there, etc. HAHA
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I went to the eye doctor today, it had been two years. My eyes are slightly IMPROVED in their nearsightedness.
No signs of glaucoma. He looked real good. Really bright light in my eyeball.
No dilating tho.
Then to WW to get to a meeting. Then home briefly, and DS and his GF, and DD and me all went to Michael's, then lunch at Taco Bell.
I got mostly adhesive stuff but picked up a couple edge punches (M. Stewart) on coupon. Spread the coupons around so everyone got something off. I'd printed them off before we left.
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So y'all know Pippin has the cone.
Well yesterday DD called to let the vet's know he needed a longer cone. The dog is a contortionist. So she got that today after class and put it on him.
He just really seems to have no clue that he should slow down or anything. He is just clunking into everything!
And we have this storm system going through - just wind and rain but for this area, it's a big deal. But Pippin keeps barking at the wind and creaking house! HA HA HA
Goofy dog.
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So DH's truck renewal was due today so I got on last night to do it. I hit submit and it went off into never never land and finally an error message.
Checked the CC this morning but nothing went through, called the tech number at DMV to see, she said what I suspected - if it lets you do it, it wasn't done. So I did it.
I'll watch the Discover card and make sure it doesn't show up twice! lol
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