Your girls are lucky to have you working so hard to find them what they need. Sorry you didn't get better news from the other school district. I know some kids have 1:1 aides here, but I don't think they usually follow the kids for more than a couple of years. Caleb's class has 1 teacher, 3 aides and no more tham 6 kids at a time. Good luck with this transition.
Bless your heart.