Originally Posted by shari stamper
I absolutely understand and appreciate the gift he gave them. I think that is one of the many reasons why I love him. Although I told him I don't appreciate the way in which he presented them, I am thankful that he loves them so much. He is a very involved Dad and I know he loves them to bits. I wouldn't be with him if he were otherwise. ;0) I am very thankful to have him as a husband, as overall, he is an absolute winner!! No doubt. I just lose my perspective sometimes and I vent about silly things. I get that. ;0)
I love that you recognize the big things. But don't discount your feelings. Regardless of the rest of the situation, they are yours and they are valid. To not express them is a disservice to you both. That said, always remember that feelings can "lie" and to evaluate them very closely before acting on them (which I'm sure you did before you spoke to J.) That's just my standard "feelings" speech!