Originally Posted by muddy otter
The falling parent situation is so tough. You want to respect parents' independence but it's so hard not to worry. With Dad it was so much harder because of the degree to which the evil Dr Merlot was involved.
I hope I'll be able to make the choice your Mom made while I can still go through stuff and handle giving things away to people who want it/care about it. I hope at that point I'll have people who do care in my life. I guess that's the scary thing about not having kids, although from what I saw when I volunteered at a nursing home in college, having kids is not necessarily a guarantee you'll have people there either.
Yeah it seems to me that if they don't do it early enough, then they just don't want to move. And then it gets harder on everyone around them. I have an aunt that's nearing 100.
I told my kids to take care of themselves. All their grandparents made it into their 80s. FIL made it to 90.