He has magnified things and he is stuck at the age of 17 emotionally. I had a ahha moment while I was chatting with an old girlfriend of his when she made a comment about stuff in their relationship. He blames me for him being angry and everything bad that comes from his anger. I believe he is really angry at his dad for leaving but can't face it and so I am his scapegoat. It actually was very freeing once I figured this out. I know there is nothing I can do and he needs to take responsibility. He really needs major counseling. Maybe if the problems in his marriage get bad enough his wife will convince him to go. Ah the effects of divorce.