When I visit my DD I have free lodgings, too. However, I get to sleep on the couch. If DH goes with me we have to stay in a motel because he's allergic to cats. DH is also very stubborn. He doesn't like going to Nebraska any more because of the humidity in the summer and doesn't want to drive in the winter. I decided if I want to visit the girls, I'll go by myself. DH can see them when they are able to come up here. He just doesn't know what he's missing.