Jan, my daughter and her girls live 1200 miles away. Not nearly as far away as your kids. Because of lack of funds, neither of us can travel to see each other much. The girls try to come here every other year, but had to miss this year. Traveling with DH involves packing his oxygen concentrator. Driving anywhere takes twice as long these days. Until starting this week, I wasn't getting paid vacations because I worked so few hours each week. I started working more hours this week, with benefits like health insurance and paid vacations. Of course, if I wasn't still paying off the $20,000 worth of medical bills incurred six years ago, I'd have the travel funds. My DD is a single mom who works full time, goes to school full time and is involved in her oldest daughter's activities. Hopefully, she'll be done with school by the time her youngest one starts school.