Hmm, I don't know how to quote 2 posts at once! Soooooooo....about surrounding yourself with people who all believe the same thing you do: I can totally understand preferring to be around people who think like we each do. I guess what I was trying to say was that if I am hanging out with like thinkers, it is because I want to, not because I am being told to. I am not AFRAID of those who think differently and I don't think that there are dire consequences if I DO hang out with people who think differently. I guess that was what I was trying to say.
On the condescending thing...I guess it comes from being spoken "down to" so many times. I don't like that so I try hard not to do it to anyone else. I sometimes fumble my words when I am trying to get my point across and people take that to mean I am not a very "bright" person. I am actually a pretty smart lady; just not as confident as I would like to be.
Ask yourself, "When Iím on my deathbed, will I be glad I was so serious about _______?" Let down your hair and stop being so darn important for a while.