Almost eveyone we knew as a couple told me that they tolerated him because they liked me so much. I thought they tolerated me because they liked him. That is how low my self-esteme was. He had hit on my girlfriends, the wives of our friends... he just has no boundries and thinks every woman wants him (must be fun living in his fantasy world). One friend even said she couldn't figure out why someone (me) with their "poop in a row" was with someone like him. I finally got the chance to confront him... he didn't try to make excuses (for once). The look on his face was comical when I told him that none of them wanted him, in fact he made them feel creepy. Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa… Karma is a wonderful thing.
We truely can't see the forest for the trees. Don't blame yourself for falling for the lies and games when you were with them, we all marry at our level of self-esteem.
Happiness is in the Heart, not in the Circumstances
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