"gag" is right. The way I refer to him in public probably wouldn't make it past the censors. I was raised in church and spent most of my life being very active . It was the right wing Christians and churches that drove me away. Not just evangelical and fundy churches, either. I experienced things that I don't hesitate to call evil in 2 different Episcopal churches. After leaving the church I began to see what was taught and believed in much the same way I came to see Santa Claus at 7 years old... not much reality to it.
So much hatred from people who profess to be all about love. I simply refuse to "Hate a gay for Jesus."