Heather, I'm so sorry to hear the news. I know you were hoping and praying so very much for a better outcome.
I think it must have helped your friend that you were open with her. I imagine just knowing you're there must help a lot. But it must be so hard for all of you who love him--and love her--to feel so powerless. Some things in life just bite so completely profoundly and horribly.
I'll be keeping all of you in my prayers, for strength, for peace, and for as much precious time for him as possible.
Cleaning with dogs in your house is like brushing your teeth while eating oreos.