So glad your safe even if the van is not.
I know how you feel about men messing the kids around. Mine get it from their Dad too, he is willing to talk but not give of himself. All we can do is let the men mes up and be there to pick up the kids afterwards.
I tell them believe it when you can see or feel it until then it is just talk.
Was going to see a friend today, kids scuppered that plan, so with one in bed and the other next door helping to set up a tree, it will be another quiet weekend.