He took the kids for Tgiving, went to his folks which is about 2 1/2 hrs away. He only took them over night there then went back to his apt for two days. My bday was Sunday so I said I wanted the kids back for my bday, but on Sat nite so I wouldn't have to see him on my bday.
I went to my brother's alone for the holiday. I was very sad and almost backed out of it, but took a few big breaths and figured I'd be fine once I got there, which was right.