The fact that one parent did not make those choices honorably doesn't mean children won't see and learn from a parent who does, and who finds the grace and strength to behave with dignity. Those convictions aren't worth any less just because one individual makes poor choices.[/QUOTE]
Thank you for these words. I am currently going through problems with the fact that my ex has basically moved his gf (the one he cheated on me with for four years during our 17 1/2 year marriage) into our old house. I have a 17 yo son and I feel like I'm the only parent who is setting a good example. I have been feeling that I try so hard to show good morals and values and my ex just cancels me out because of his actions.
I can only hope that my son will be influenced more by me than by his selfish father.
I have been mainly a lurker on this thread since it started and I have to say that it has helped me get through my divorce because I can relate to what many of you are saying. It does get better, but takes a long time. I have been divorced for 3 1/2 years, but sometimes it seems like just yesterday.
Words of advice would be don't rush things, expect setbacks as you move forward on your new journey towards a better life. Remember we will all be better in the end. Take time to heal.
Thanks to all who share their stories on this thread.