Laurie! WOW!!! The relief is there. the fear is there ...and the confidence is there to go forward. Good for you! And I totally understand your point for NOT going to the apartment....the kids will tell you all about it and then you can be set at ease or put on alert...depending on what they say..I know when my kids first went to the x's new house..(he was living with now present wife) they were apprehensive about it all they told me stories, I called him on them and then realized that the kids were telling me things so that I would call and make a ruckus....my kids just do not want to go to teh x's house...it is a constant fight and he rarely sees them (due to "work") Hang in there...this will most likely be the longest roller coaster ever.....I hope the transition goes better for you than it did for me!
I too LOVED the freedom of not having him around......
My beautiful rings. The plain band was the last wedding band my Mother wore. The hanky it is pictured on, my husband carried the day we got married!