Originally Posted by hedgiemama
Not sure why I even try to understand!
Cindy, I tried to understand the very same thing. He was spending like there was no tomorrow. Yet, could not make his payments. Had no money....
I just can't think about it. It makes me angry, sad and I can not help that he has changed so much. It is/was not my fault, that is for sure. He is unable to reason, has no common sense anymore. I had to pack it all up in a box and put it away.
This is something I'm slowly understanding at this end. My therapist was proud of me yesterday, at how strong I'm being through this. I said right, but it's been two weeks since my last 'standing up to him' and nothing's changed?! She said, maybe not, but the fact that I stood up to him is huge... wouldn't have happened 4-6 wks ago, so I'm getting there.
First appt that I actually didn't cry the entire time, so I know it's true, even though it may not feel like it!