Lorraine, I forgot to mention that the teachers weren't exactly openly surprised by my willingness to put the autism label on Jack, but they were very CAREFUL when they brought the subject up, like they had been burned many times before. I feel sorry for the school folks who get dumped on by parents in denial or who get angry because they don't realize that the label can get your child services. I'm a big fan of the label!
Of course, I also feel sorry for the parents who get dumped on by insensitive and uncooperative and ignorant schools, as well as for the parents who are just beginning this journey and for whom denial is soooo much easier than facing reality. I really DO get where they are coming from!