Originally Posted by irishjc820
So, further confirmation that I don't need Steve.
I was the first one to get to the bar tonight, so I was talking to Vinny the bartender for a little while and as soon as I sat down, he asked how my birthday was. So sweet that he remembered.
Then later one of the girls asked how dinner with Steve was on Monday, because she hadn't heard how he forgot about it. So we were talking about that for a few minutes and Vinny came over and said "I don't mean to butt in, but I've only known you for a few months, and we've never dated, but I remembered your birthday. So he's a tool for not remembering it".
And you know what? He's right! If my bartender can remember, so should my supposedly good friends!
Steve IM'd me today and said he'll be down here for dinner with co-worker tomorrow night and said if I'm free after, maybe we could get together for a drink and catch up, and he offered to help me with my resume (he sent me a job opening at his company that he thinks would be a really good fit for me). If I'm free, and it works out, I'll go, but if something (or someone) better comes up, I'm bailing on him.
That was sweet of Vinny to remember and say something.
Sometimes it's the observation of a "stranger" that brings things into sharp focus!
I say if you make plans w/ him them keep them but don't make yourself overly available to him. If you're free...fine. If not, then you're busy. Oh well.
Someday he'll get the hint that he should have treated you better all along.
FYI - I only say keep your plans w/ him b/c I know how much you hate having your plans cancelled on you. You can be the better person and keep your appointments.
Of course there's nothing wrong w/ saying you're NOT free just to avoid being let down.