Originally Posted by sewsplendidstamper
I see no bad coming from getting comfort in the religious thought of an after life I just don't feel it. Anything that can be done to ease the distress of the person dying I'm pretty much all for.
My thoughts on all of this are pretty concrete. I don't even go to my daughters grave cuz I just don't feel like I need to stand there next to where her body has decomposed. Morbid? Maybe. It causes me to struggle with what I want when I die. What I want for my family. Will my kids want a grave to visit? Will they be ok with visiting somewhere my ashes were released? Will they feel like I do now and not need a physical presence to have a moment feeling closer to me? This is the tough pat that I'm dealing with right now. And in all of it I never think "well just in case God exists I'd better do..."
I don't know how old you are (or how old your kids are) but have you asked them what's important to them? I remember going to the cemetery just about every week during the summer with my mom and grandma. I think of it as sort of an old world thing that is fading out. They would clean up the grave of my great grandparents, plant flowers, even mow the lawn if they thought it wasn't being done well enough etc. My parents did the same thing.
I feel sort of sad that my brothers and I aren't doing the same thing for my parents. We visit the grave occasionally. I don't expect my kids would ever visit my grave, expecially since they don't live anywhere near me. I guess I should ask them. I have already told them I want to be cremated and scattered somewhere.